what would you do?

[packbell]

Just come home from work feeling really down, just been told by a customer who is friends with an ex friend of mine maybe I should offer an olive branch, now this ex-friend of mine has had her baby!

We fell out 9mths go it was messy I tried everything I could to fix our friendship but failed!! She came between me and my best friend as well! Who know longer talks to me! My daughter lost her play mates outside of school it was heartbreaking!!

Anyway this person tonight says to me maybe you should be the better person and pick up the phone and congratulate her on her new arrival, that this person is a nice person!

I'm sure she's not been told why we fell out, and how this person manipulated the situation for her own advantage.

I felt really low after all this and was put on anti depressants.

I come home feeling really upset that people think I'm this horrible person!!

What would you do? my workmate said to leave it, if anything it should be the other way around!

if yo would like to try and make amends and retrieve the friendship then i think sending a card to congratulate her on her new arrival would be gesture enough to ease her into calling you.

if you feel that too much water has passed under the bridge and you would like to just move on, then ignore this nosey interferring woman and carry on with your life.

either way, you are not to blame

Leave it. The customer doesn't know what went on, and doesn't know how much it all upset you. You do. If you don't want this person in your life, you don't have to have her. Honestly, no-one's going to think you're horrible; we all have people we simply don't like, however well they may get on with others.

Sat up going over and over things in my head, why do I let people do this to me!

packbell if this person upset you then don't feel bad, i have been in similar situation, 2 supposed friends deciding they would destroy my life as i had decent guy who liked me etc, have just found out im pregnant and am dreaing them finding out due to the hassle they will cause.

On the note of your daughter i feel sorry for you and her as its hard to explain why these people are no longer part of your life, my ds is 6 and almost a year later still asks where they are and when can we see them.

dont feel pressurised into anything or feel bad

thank you xstaceyxcatx, congratulations, I have a 6 yr old and 17mth old both girls. They bring such joy, no-one can take that away from you xx

Thank you, no-one can take it away your right but the sick feelings and anxiety are horrible. Just irritating how it was all over nothing really considering we're now finished and i'm probgoing to remain a single parent a=only now to 2 kids, which i'm sure will give them plenty ammunition.

Hopefully you'll feel better though and just get lots of cuddles and kisses from your girls nothing beats it. xx