Did he mean what I thought he did?

[MostlyLurking]

DP and I were chatting today about many things, he said he didn't know where he was with me (we don't live together or have children together) but he said that for instance he didn't know if I wanted the whole 9 yeards? Would you take that as he wants to take things further?

Yes maybe, or equally it could mean that he thinks you want to and he doesn't!

Just talk to him, be honest and say what you hope for. If he is scared off or goes into some kind of frantic backtracking then he's not the right man anyway regardless of how long you've been together. How long have you been together btw?

just ask him

been together 18 months. No problems with him backing off, always felt he is very keen iyswim, just wasn't totally sure what the 9 yards thing was.

Ok, so you feel that he is keen - does he feel that you're keen?

well, ask him

"The whole nine yards" = "the full monty" = marriage, maybe?

I think he means he's not sure if you want marriage and kids with him, do you?x

Thank you everyone, just needed to confirm someone elses take on the 9 yards thing. DP and I need to talk .