How do you move on from someone you love...

[poshsinglemum]

If they no longer want you and you can't go out much to flirt with new ones?
Even if I do go pout I always think of him and noone else is good enough. What's the answer ladies? Tried and tested tips needed.

go out even!

How long have you been on your own Posh? Can you value the you time and find a sense of self that will be OK if one comes along?

Stop thinking about him. Put away the pictures and anything that reminds you of him, songs on the ipod delete. Get the 'you' before you met him back on track again. Moving on from a relationship if one is still in love and the other not is difficult and painful but that old trusty cliche is true: time does heal the pain.

I agree, Time changes everything, be positive :-)

Travel! Go on an adventure or two and challenge what you assume is your identity. Take a course that will stretch you intellectually/culturally. Have you ever considered living in another country?

It may take quite some time to get over, but you will, and an even better version of yourself will emerge without that relationship.

Can you say a bit more about the background? What was the nature of the relationship and how upset are you?

FWIW, it took me four years to get over my ex, even though we were together for only six months. I wasn't interested in anyone else and no-one I met measured up. I finally went into therapy for a year and that was eye-opening for me, enabled me to move on and I'm now with lovely DP and moving in together next weekend!

dd is two- id love to travel but cannot possibly.

I am going to do an evening course though- that's as adventurous as I can muster tbh.

I write a list of everything I don't like about them 'aloof/cocky whatever' and stick it to the fridge!

Evening course is great!
I found being physically active really helped me keep going. Going for long walks with dd, swimming etc... things to keep your body happy while you're gaining back your identity.
If you can do something positive and slightly out of character each day, it can jolt you into being in the moment, rather than reminiscing.

I can't really add anything, apart from sympathy.
I am about to go through this myself as I am separating from H after a long time together and I still love him very much but he doesn't feel the same way.

Just look after yourself and dd, I'm sure it will get better with time.