He wont give me any money

[IWantWine]

I left back in February and managed to get somewhere to stay for a while. But my money ran out. He froze our bank accounts. Now I cant pay my rent and I have only the pound coins in my purse.

I cant get an overdraft and my credit card is blocked.

I have been forced to return to the marital home and I am just so down. I would rather die than be here. I dont have anywhere to go and no one to turn to.

I dont qualify for legal aid (although he does) and if I proceed with the divorce it is going to cost thousands, which I dont have. I cant see anyway out. I cant get through to Womens Aid. Things here are so much worse than they were before I left. I cant take it any more

Oh love, I think I recall your story, I have no advice, but wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you and that someone much better than I will come along and help you.

Thanks that means a lot.

I just dont understand how he has the right to freeze the bank account and prevent me having access to my money indefinitely! My debts are so great now that even if I could borrow I wouldnt dare because I dont know how I could pay it back.

I am sorry for you. I don't know your story. Have you any family or friends that you can stay with/ borrow money from. Keep trying WA they will surely be able to tell you the legalities of getting access to your money. Have you spoken to the bank about the frozen accounts?

have you applied for benefits? You should. They arev for people in your situation.

www.ndvh.org/ there is a quick escape button on that page, top right corner.

refuge.org.uk/

If you explain your situation to refuge they might have some very good, current advice to give you on how to manage your situation financially.

It's not good having thousands tied up in a marriage if you cannot be in the marriage any more. You need to make sure people know that you cannot be in the marriage any more.

I don't know your backstory, but keep trying Women's Aid.

I would also be down at the bank performing and demanding to know how he managed to have your accounts frozen. Was his name on them? If not, how on earth did he get the authority?