What makes men drip feed after an affair/cheating?

[notdinnerpartyconvo]

Is it just fear?

I am sure that's a big part of it, denial another thing and in my DH's case, some of the things were so awful he wanted to protect me and not admit to himself, more importantly, that he was actually capable of doing such things eg lies, deceit, that he was "played" to a certain extent etc.

thanks coutingto10, my ex actually used the words "I wish there was someone else involved as that would make things easier for you but there just isn't" and there was! What a head fuck is that!?

Interesting about the "protect me" part, I'm sure us women like to this that but it's more about men trying to protect themselves and hide away from the real truth?

bump, am hoping WWIFN will see this

Totally agree with LeQueen. Twas my experience, anyway. Still finding things out a year on, and will never know the extent of what really went on. Am getting to the stage where I no longer care though, so that's got to be progress!

I don't really care any more even thought it's only been a few weeks and we were together for nearly 7 years. I've just dealt with it by assuming the worst although he still insists it was only a kiss with some random.

Which is a blatant lie. And I didn't even threaten to chop his knob off with a rusty knife or similar.

When they want to be some men are conniving little shits aren't they!?

NDPC...I salute you for that attitude

high self-esteem in a woman = a very good look

not so much fear as cowardice - laced with guilt complacancy and a touch of laziness
mind you I don't know how I'd broach the subject if I was cheating, actually

Totall agree with LeQueen.

They tell you a little bit, thinking that will be enough - but you know there is more - so they tell you a little bit more in the hope that you will say "OK darling, well if you say that you just played tonsil tennis then I believe you. Is steak ok for dinner?"

Just seeing what they can get away with.