OK, so, Sil has a new BF, met on a dating site, together for 8 months.
She's been single for ages, since splitting with her first BF. lots of heart-rending, non-starters, some real bastards , very battered and bruised.
New BF seemed ok and she's starry eyed and in love with the whole fun of having a boyfriend. Completely understandable when she's had to watch her friends settle down one by one till she's the last standing and has found it so hard .
Was initially thrilled for her but as more stuff has slipped out, DH amd I are feeling increasingly worried.
Essentially she seems to be doing an incredible amount to keep the relationship going while he tosses a few compliments and weekends away at her now and again and completely loses it with her if his high standards are not met .
While money should never admit impediment, DH's family are incredibly well off and he is now really worried that new BF is only after Sil for the green .
Anyway, last Thursday he proposed and she is thrilled.
DH is dead set on taking his parents aside and warning them not to trust BF or invest in any of his schemes.
Pils think he's great fun, are thrilled at developments and would be shocked and upset to hear of our suspicions.
Certainly BF's a bit fake. He's ,careerwise, not what he claims to be but that could be down to the recession and him putting on a brave face while having to wait till markets pick up etc.
Also, Fil thinks BF is a city whizzkid and has recently been down on DH for not achieving more.
I think, horses/stable door and the time to speak out has passed.
I also think it may look like sour grapes on DH's part.
Sometimes you just have to be there to pick up the pieces, no?
I didn't want to stretch an already long post with too many details of BF's general wrongness, but am happy to provide further evidence of why my antennae are twitching.
Advice, flaming or otherwise, really appreciated.