Am I mental?

[honeymoonmum]

DH went on stag do (our second child only 12 days old) and there were strippers (of course) Feel betrayed and ugly and like whilst Im home nursing my beautiful baby and looking after DS1 husband and mates off perving over some poor cow being paid to get her tits out-what's wrong with me? I feel so angry and disgusted even though it's no big surprise or crime of the century-am I losing it-can't stop crying. Reason with me please!

Hmm people have their barriers don't they? Strippers are mine it crosses a line.

I feel like I am a self confident person and me and DH have a good sex life. I do know what it's like post baby also.

I wouldn't want him paying any money to have a real life woman waver her tits and fanjo in his face and dry hump him.

You wouldn't accept it if he was at home and had a rl friend, colleague, woman whatever get naked for him and do all that would you? So why should you accept the fact he went out of the way for that stimulation and paid for it.

Poor you. I would have been livid too. This is not on. You just gave birth and need love and support.

To be fair to him it was strippers hired for the stag by best man and DH was just in pub they came into with rest of stag party. God if he had gone to a club and paid I would be on the serious war path! Glad I'm not alone in feeling it's a bit hurtful though. Guess he couldn't control it though-he said he went outside for a fag .........hmmmmmmmmmmm!!!

Pub strippers are the worst I hate to say it, ahve you ever seen one? I'd be a bit pissed to and no I wouldn't beleive he went out for a fag.

You are not mental. You have just had a baby and feel especially vunerable.

Thanks Rafwife-I am feeling vulnerable and especially as we have massive issues in sex life i.e. no sex life since I got pregnant! Don't feel he fancies me and so fancying other women particularly hard to bear! Doesn't help having leaky boobs and looking 5 months preggers still!!!!

ps not seen pub stripper-why so bad?

Pub strippers do more than just strip these days.

It is essentially a sex show.
There is often interaction.

I'd be fucking livid too, but it's not like he booked her, I suppose.

TBH, most men watching will have felt sorry for the poor girl.
Sexy it is not.

Yeah I did hear talk of licking cream off tits at one stag do. Why are men such utter twats when together? Bet none of them would have the balls to hire/be involved with this in on their own. Knobs.

DH doesn't seem to think it's that big a deal which is irritating me more. He keeps saying 'just let it go, you can't change the world!!!!' No but I can complain!!!!!!

Better go... got to get my tits out for the baby - shame I'm not being paid to do it eh!!! Thanks for all your supportive words and any advice on how I can 'let it go' would be appreciated!

Not all men are like this. Set your boundaries; make them clear and stick to them.

you sound young and he sounds immature. take care lovie and enjoy your baby regardless.

Yeah it's a sex show basically, licking whipped cream of of tits, sitting on mens faces, making them eat bananas and stripping the blokes and walking over them/sitting on their faces.

Seen it all in my less than sheltered youth, I'd still be fucking livid, if it's any comfort most men are to shocked to join in and it is not sexy it's vile. They are usually minging trust me.

I dunno, I have been to hen do's/birthday parties where male strippers have been booked, they get pretty interactive, bananas, whipped cream, willy out(not on me mind I'd run a mile). I went home to dp and it wouldn't have crossed my mind to feel bad about it, why would I?

Just because he was there doesn't mean he was perving, I think it's more for humiliation than titillation most of the time.

Having a new baby is a very emotional time, and I can see why you feel betrayed. He should be proud of you and your new baby, not making you miserable. I would've been furious with DH if he'd gone out at all in those first days.

It's more worrying that he isn't making you feel beautiful. My DH loved my pregnant body, didn't mind my flabby post pregnancy one or ceasarean scar, and still loves it, even though things are heading south these days.

What was he like when DS1 was born?