Is this a major red flag?

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I've just started a new relationship, it's early days yet but almost-DP has opened up about his family history...

His dad was an alcoholic for nearly 40 years (DP is 33) and has been sober for the last 2. DP has been seeing a counsellor and therapist for the last year to help with anxiety issues, he said he goes to group meetings and has done CBT, although he says he visits the group meetings less often recently.

He's very positive and open about how he is feeling a lot better now, he is starting to be able to talk to his dad about how his alcoholism affected him growing up. He admits his 'issues' affected past relationships in a number of ways and it was coming out of his last one that made him realise he wouldn't be able to have a successful relationship without sorting out his issues first. Hence all this therapy.

I feel bad for asking this (hence the name change), and I can't really articulate why I feel like this, but should I just run away from this one??

As a recovering "adult child" myself, I respect what this guy's doing ... and share your caution! I'm just NOT having ANY relationships until I'm fairly convinced I'm more like an "adult adult", heh. But, then, I'm old enough to be his mum and have more relationship cockups under my belt, so to speak.

The implications for you depend on what hopes you have for your relationship with him (so far). There's a risk of your being drawn into a nurturing role, albeit unknowingly. There's also a fair chance he'll change a great deal over the coming few years, so you could end up being his transitional partner. It's really down to whether you're willing to go along for the ride? FWIW, I think it's great that he's gained enough self-awareness to be honest with you.

Am interested to see how/if this develops!

Just keep remembering it's not your job to rescue him. His therapist is paid for that.

A lot of good advice here. His honesty gives you an advantage as you know what you are getting into but you need to make sure that you don't somehow get drawn into some kind of collusion iyswim. You are not his therapist and you have the right to demand the same things from a relationship that you would normally - so don't let the "baggage" distract you from that.
On a personal level my brain would probably tell me to run for the hills because I'm a mental health nurse and avoid this stuff in my personal life as best I can - but if I had feelings for the bloke it'd be more tricky. Fortunately not an issue for me cos I'm married! Good luck

Thanks for your replies; it's been useful hearing from people who have experience of this, in whatever capacity.

I'll see how the next couple of weeks go, it really is still early days so if I want to 'get out' it shouldn't be too hard! I'll let you know how I get on....