How to get a sex drive back?!?!

[Spicethingsup]

Hi all i have name changed for this for obvious reasons.

I am only 21 and married for just under 2 years been together for 6 years have one DS 5 yo

But my sex drive has completely gone

I have no idea why it has just got gradually worse since having DS.
Some nights i really do fancy some but for some reason i just cant seem to be bothered and its really starting to put a strain on things.

When me and DH first got together it was happening like 6 times a day sometimes and it wasnt just in the bedroom we couldnt keep out hand of one another.

I dont nessasary want it back to that, but just to want it 2 or 3 times a week or evan once a week would be great.
I miss great sex

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Hi,

one way of doing it is looking at your diet and seeing whether you lack any minerals or vitamins. Zinc is said to help.

I guess some people will also say that the more you do it, the more you will be up for it.

It also helps if your hubby could help more around the house so you feel less tired.

Yuo usually find with women is that if there is something bugging them about their relationship in the daytime, then they take it to bed with them. But men can have a blazing row then shag later anyway.
Is there an issue with your DH that you are subconsciously taking into the bedroom?

'But men can have a blazing row then shag later anyway' - love it, so true!

I'm trying to do the same. We've had some pretty tough times recently and I want to do the same as OH has found it very difficult. So am waiting with baited breath for suggestions...

But men can have a blazing row then shag later anyway.

LOL!!

Fraid it's true...use it or lose it....the more you do it the more you want to do it.
Ergo, the less you do it, the less you want it. Weel for a woman, anyway.

Think the only real advice I can come up with, if it's definitely not a daytime issue that's niggling away at back of your mind, is to just grit your teeth and go for it.
Okay, it won't be the best sex you've ever had, but it might get you in the mood for more.
I remember reading about a woman who (crazily) promised her DH she would have sex with him every day for a whole year! Think even he got a bit bored eventually and just rolled over one night and said he just wanted to go to sleep!
But I think for about two weeks they both enjoyed it.

Thanks all for ur advice

I have to agree with all those who've said use it or lose it.......and I've been guilty of that and it's caused us real problems.

It really is a case of lying back of thinking of England for that one time, or maybe even just the first 5 mins!!