Cultural problems with Nigerian Hubby

[Bexstar5]

I need advice. Married to a Nigerian and having major cultural and compatibility problems. We have a 2½ dd and not sure what to do for the best. Please advise...

Not unsurprising given the increased number of anti-immigrant and anti-foreigner posts on Mumsnet, as well as other forums that I frequent.

my OH is from a completely different culture. but whilst we understand we are from different cultures those differences are not an excuse for not working through things.

i dont' think what you describe really is down to culture tbh - i think he just realises he can use that to get his way.

if he wanted to live by what he sees as nigerian culture surely he should have married someone who was from that.

what about your culture (or values). where is the respect for that?

you have to be able to negotiate things that are acceptable to both of you or a partnership won't work.

Doesn't sound like its a Nigerian thing, really.

I had a long relationship with a Nigerian man, and there were real problems caused by a complete clash of cultural attitudes towards gender roles which eventually put paid top the relationship. However, the stuff you have listed does not sound like a cultural clash. Its quite petty, really, other than him not pulling his weight when at home and jobless - that's nothing to do with culture, either, though.

Bex, I'm afraid this does sound like incompatibility. Behavioural differences become issues when you're with the wrong person and there's no other way of reading this :(

I think it would be kinder to all three of you to face this head-on and split as sensibly as possible.

Guys this thread is two years old, resurrected by an idiot with an axe to grind. IGNORE.

Oh I am a nit! Mind you, I didn't realise it was already July 2012 How time flies! Have the Olympics started yet?

Why tf did you marry him??

Why the fuck did you resurrect a thread that is twelve years old?

@rodeobob456

You've replied to a thread that is 12 years old.
Well done you.

😂hahahaha, this is the most zombiest thread ever! I'm wondering how it's even possible to FIND a thread that's 12 years old, let alone not notice!!!

BTW I'm commenting just to bump and see how many others we lure in....,

😂😂 I have to wonder if they are still married, 12 years on....