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is this a bit stalker like or acceptable?

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beebers · 19/07/2010 12:30

Met a really nice guy while out on saturday night. was slightly pissed therefore did not exchange phone numbers. i do know where he lives as he told me. do you think it is acceptable to knock on his door later on in the week and see if he fancies a drink. as i am typing i feel like a stalker. not acceptable is it.

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yousaidit · 20/07/2010 20:50

my mate has been dating some one new, so for a larf we looked up his name on google (find sme pics, that sort of thing, not ogn facebook) and an electoral role info thing popped up with an 'other occupant' name below his.. it's a womans!! diff surname.. we think he's a naughty mr! super sleuthing an' all that

BitOfFun · 20/07/2010 20:54

The info on 192.com is hopelessly out of date though. My ex is still listed as living here, and he moved out five years ago

UnholyMoley · 20/07/2010 20:55

Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it then. I don't suppose you really fancy the idea of sharing him with another woman, whether they have an agreement not not (probably not), do you?!

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beebers · 20/07/2010 20:57

not really but i am not looking for a relationship really, so don't mind going out for a few drinks. we'll see what happens though.

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yousaidit · 20/07/2010 20:57

BitOfFun.. ahh, right then, back to wedding dresses it is!

ItsGraceActually · 20/07/2010 20:58

Well, hey, beebers, you did the asking thing perfectly. So well done!

Don't suppose he's given you his gf's number so you can check? No, thought not ...

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beebers · 20/07/2010 21:01

at least i know i am not completely hideous.

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Taghain · 20/07/2010 21:01

Next step:
Thank him for being honest, and suggests he calls you when he's single again.
Good luck and back to the drawing board

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beebers · 20/07/2010 21:03

well at least i have the seventy year old man that was winking at me on match.com.

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UnholyMoley · 20/07/2010 21:05

Ewwww. Unless you're 68 yourself, of course

Does he have his age down as 55?

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beebers · 20/07/2010 21:06

I'm thirty three. he is older than my dad! I must admit, I even looked at his salary because I thought something has got to be going on here. Fancied myself as Anna Nicole Smith type. Alas, salary was not stated. probably because he is bloody retired!!!!

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SolidGoldBrass · 22/07/2010 14:11

Maybe he is in a non-exclusive relationship. People do have them. If you want to go for a drink with him, go for a drink with him (and if you are not looking for monogamy and he has told you that he is in a non-exclusive relationship, do whatever he and you feel like doing. )

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