Will DP love this baby like he loves DS?

[ThatDamnDog]

Typed lengthy post twice and lost it twice. So, basically, honest experiences please. They're mega-close, DS is 3 and is his dad's universe. I'm worried about thanklessness of baby again and how DP will cope with this.

What do you mean by 'thanklessness of baby'?

Of course he will

My DH had a dd who was 3 when our dd was born. If I'm honest, he's not great with the newborn stage but he adores dd now. We also have a ds who is now 7 months. Again, not so great for the first couple of months but once they start to do something, he's much more interested.

I do find he is stricter with our dc's and that he perhaps overcompensates a little bit for not being with dsd all the time

How could he not?

DS was SO wanted by DP, who'd waited years - decades - for children. I think it's intertwined with losing his dad, who he was very close to. He has such a close relationship with DS, I can't imagine how he'll cope with having to deal with a baby again. DS was a very tough baby, colicky, sleepless etc and I guess I'm imagining it will be that hard again this time. Oddly enough feel ok about it myself!

Did we all not worry about how could we love another child as much as our first?? I am sure he will love this baby and any future babies equally and as much as your ds. Try not to worry x

I can't why he wouldn't love another baby just as much - as the other posters are saying, it's very common to worry about this, but very rare for it to be a problem.

And maybe you'll get an 'easier' baby this time

Thanks all

I guess he and DS just seem to have such an intense relationship - DP is the one who gets teary about stuff, and DS really can do no wrong (not bloody likely, the little tyke!) in his eyes. I just wonder how a squawking baby is going to fit in with it all. Especially since I am boring uptight mummy who tells DS off a lot and am now going to be boring uptight mummy who sits on her arse feeding a baby all day while telling DS off!