First ever post - moving in with DP - advice??

[happiestblonde]

Hi, I've just joined MN after months of reading. I want to say hello and ask for a bit of advice from your wealth of experience;
I'm 22 and moving in with DP of around a year on Monday - I've never lived with anyone before and I know it's early days but tthe relationship has been utterly perfect so far and I couldn't be happier. He's a little older than me (30) and we met in rather an interesting way - all I really want is a bit of advice about how to make these things work - my biggest fear is that this happiness could end because, lame as it sounds, I feel like I've found my soul mate and so any tips for co-habiting would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! x

You're still very much in the honeymoon period, don't be alarmed if that all settles down after living together for a while, and you're picking up his musty undies from the bathroom floor

Give each other space. Don't crowd each other in the settling in period. But also don't neglect each other just because you live together now.

As boring as it is, try and allocate 'roles' in terms of housework. Like you will cook, he will wash. When I first moved in with my ex, I was trying to be superwoman, running round like a headless chicken trying to keep on top of everything which just doesn't work after a day few weeks.

Good luck, relax, and I hope you both live happily ever after

Sort out all the bills and make a decision about who pays what or at least have a discussion about how the bills will be paid. Sorting out the boring stuff like finances means they won't get in the way of your lives.

Oh and welcome to MN

Also, iron out the bill paying situation - who pays what. Back then, we set up a joint account which we both direct debited money to each month to equally pay rent/bills/food.

That makes sense. We've pretty much lived together for months but this is the first actual house we have for just the two of us. I'm massively excited. You're right about an account for bills etc and we both love to cook, plus he is happy to take on most housework etc. Thank you all so much for advice, i love MN.

Also....

How long does the 'honeymoon period' supposedly last? x