holiday drinking

[conway]

Am on holiday at the moment. My husband´s idea of a holiday is to drink at the bar in the evenings. That would be o.k if we didn´t have 2 young kids to thing about.
I put our 4 year old to bed at 9.30 last night and my husband was meant to follow with my 9 year old. AT 11.45 I was starting to get worried so went downstairs and dragged my 9 year old to bed who was happily on his DS. My husband was nowehere to be seen.
He did return to bed in a right state, tried to have a coversation with him but he just fell asleep.
I am not sure whether to see If me and the boys can get an earlier flight home, or if we can get my husband into a separate room.

What do you mean he was nowhere to be seen? Where was your ds, in the bar by himself? Was it safe?! Was he upset?

My dh is a big boozer which can be irritating and I worry about his health but he would never behave like this - not even keeping ds up that late, let alone leaving him alone and coming home that trashed.

Are you ok? Is this just one of many similar episodes? x

Have you spoken to him this morning? How would he react to you leaving? How awful for you to have to cut your holiday short. Post again, am worried about you.

conway

You have written about your H before. You sound completely downtrodden by his ill treatment of you.

What are you both teaching your children about relationships here?. Would you want them to have this sort of relationship you now have when they are themselves adults?.

do you mean he left ds downstairs of holiday home? or downstairs at pub?

have threaten to leave on a earlier holiday flight. When i mentioned this he was really apolegetic and said he won´t do it again. aparently he was in the loo. My son of 9 was quite happy playing his Ds with another boy he had met. It is a large hotel complex with lots of bars.
So I think I will manage to last out the holiday but on my terms.
Obviously don´t know what to do in the long term. Will dread the next holiday.

Well, it's your choice if there is going to be a next holiday, to be rather brutally honest. I've read your other postings and it sounds as if you have a pretty rough time, so maybe at some point you need to choose if you're going to put up with that for the rest of your life.