Can we get this together again?

[Beethoven]

I've a relationship problem and I'd like your thoughts.

My XP and I were living together when my father died unexpectedly. We weren't happy where we were living, and I wasn't enjoying my job. It got to the stage I would get so upset I would bite myself in anger. My XP is a lovely caring man, but he said he struggled to cope. Our sex life dwindled. I fell out with his parents as they thought I was making him miserable (I suppose a natural reaction from his mum). Eventually we broke up, with the idea that I would move close to my family.

Since then things have got better. We speak or email almost daily, we've seen each other a few times. My XP says he struggles to see me as a partner, but we're still almost best friends. This limbo is stopping us from moving on either with each other, or with other people.

Is this a situation we can resolve?

Bumpety bump

Sorry for the loss of your father, and this relationship.

I'd say yes, you can get something good back, but he'd have to want the fresh start too. He's said he doesn't see you as a partner though, so this isn't promising.
When you see him, in what context is it? Do you get a good vibe from him, or is he just friendly? If you want to step it up, you need to suggest you make it more like a romantic date? But he could just say no, of course, and just want to be friends.
If that is the case, then maybe it's best you find a new "almost best friend", and stop torturing yourself.

You sound like you were just in a bad place - bad timing for the relationship. However, if he struggled to cope with you when you were going through a bad patch with both the death of a parent and problems at work, are you really going to have faith in him that he'll be there for you when something else bad happens? Are you seeing him through rose-tinted spectacles?
Was he very young at the time? Has he grown up much since, if so?

Perhaps he isn't The One. He can be the closest you've come to The One so far, but not quite it.

Sorry, don't think I've given you any answers, maybe just things to think about. Good luck.

Oh FFS! Look, everybody, this IS the same poster as this thread.

OP, why not try biting your own cock for a bit?

oh for fuck's sake