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What a f*ckwit!

30 replies

Elmtree1Ems · 15/07/2010 10:00

Oh man.

Only 5 days after I was waxing lyrical on these very pages about the passion me and fella have and we have 'broken up'.

Was a fight, he said couldn't deal with our fights (they were pretty epic)and wanted out. ok so far so...well yea, heartbroken all of that.

Except three days on and he is 'not sure', he thinks I need to sort myself out (I have some issues with depression) and then 'we will see'. He says if I could be a certian way then wemight work and so on. In the meantime he doens't think we should wait for each other, but he doesn;t want ot rule out the possibility of us getting back together.

Says he loves me, but wants to be friends, to give me a chance to find my happiness and suchlike, and if you love somethng 'set it free' and says if we are meant to be our paths will cross again and we will be together, (subtext once I have sorted myself out). So far hasn;t been willing to enter into any discussion about anything HE might have done to controbute to the breakup.

Oh and last night he told me he was going to go back onto the dating site we met and blog on there, cause he was 'lonely' and upset about not being with me and flirting with other women would help.

I said I was not ok about that and he said 'why are you so worried, no-one on there could compare to you, no woman could, you don't need to feel threatened'.

Uh.

What the actual f*ck?!!!!!

Is there anyone here who thinks he is anytihng other than a tosser? I'm trying to decide whether to remain friends and see where it leads us in the future because when we are 'on' it's like heaven, and I wonder whether we could have a chance...slap me slap me slap me.

(thanks in advance)

OP posts:
gettingeasier · 15/07/2010 19:01

Elmtrees every fibre in me stands on end this person needs to be avoided no matter how long the recovery period. Ask yourself , if a friend were running this scenario by you for advice , what would you say ?

Sorry matters of the heart are invariably painful

ISDP · 15/07/2010 19:17

When I read the first part of your thread (the epic fights) I remembered I used to date a girl who would delierately annoy me to fuck until I shout "enough!!! I've had it, I am out" so that she can then, her words not mine "now that I have come so close to losing you I realised how much I loved you". The make up sex was epic I must say... Anyway, it later transpired that she has made up a story about going to see her parents whilst actually booking a hotel in Cyprus with her Ex and having sex in the swimming pool...

BAck to the subject at hand, the whole "i need to flirt with other women to not feel lonely" is complete and utter crap! Please tell him to do one and never look back

What a scrote!

AnyFucker · 15/07/2010 20:23

what sgb said

rupert22 · 15/07/2010 20:30

Right, time to do the 'friends' test. If this was the story a dear friend came to you with, crying and lovelorn, would you
(a) console her and advise her to lay low until the cad saw the error of his ways and run back to her, roses between his buttocks

(b) laugh yourself off the chair and regroup when you heard the door slam

(c) Tell her to get a grip, he is a tosser and as for the mind reading 'passing you water wehn you didnt ask for it, but really wanted a drink' told her to stop romanticising and join the real world.

SolidGoldBrass · 15/07/2010 20:37

But Elmtree, his intentions towards you are not good. He wants to feed his ego from you, not make you happy. His nice behaviour is a tactic to get what he wants (your uncomplaining devotion and dependence on him). There's no 'fixing' a person who is calculatedly manipulative. Put yourself first and drop him.

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