Friendships and newbaby

[Wanttofly]

I would like to know if this is normal or if it is me?

My bestfriend is 29 lives at home with her mum and has no boyfriend. I have been her friend for 9 years she is Godmother to my DS 1 years old. But since i had my baby she no longer wants to stay with me and HD and she will not return phone calls or txts. I have not said or done anything to upset her and invite her over alot but she makes reason why she cant come or just not anwser me.

The same has happen to DH friends Both in their 30 live at home with mum and dad and are single. They do not cpome to parties we invite them to or come round and see us anymore or txt or call us.

I am realy hurt by this. Last year we all went on holiday together and this year they book it again but took my bil and sil and we only found out as they said they couldnt come to our's as they were all busy. and it was a friend that told him why not even DH own brother!

I just feel like having my baby has lost me my friends.

Has this happened to anyone else or is it just me?

Hi wanttofly this has happened to me, not all of them, but a couple of very close friends have near enough disappeared from my life.I have 6month old twins and obviously found it particularly hard to get out when they were newborn, but one friend thought i could just meet up anywhere but despite me asking many times if she would like to come over she either was busy or just blanked my texts/calls etc.
It is hurtful and when i confronted her about it she said she was busy at work-we do the same job so i know what work pressures are like-but i hoped that in over 6 months she might have wanted to see me.
I stopped asking and have started to meet more mums at baby groups etc which is nice as it gets me out and about but to be honest i dont always want to talk about babies and would love to see my old friends more.
I think it does happen i guess when it is someone you are close to it just bloody hurts.I'm sure you feel like me, i want to shout sometimes
I'M STILL ME,I CAN SOCIALISE AGAIN,I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT BABIES 24/7,I AM THE SAME FRIEND I WAS BEFORE I JUST HAVE BABIES NOW,I WOULD LOVE SOME ADULT CONVERSATION!!!
It isnt just you xx