Lonely and don't know what to do

[ScarlettButler]

I'm just really lonely at the moment. My mum and sister are very close and I've always felt on the outside when they are together (they're not horrible - just clearly have much more in common with each other). And this seems to happen with my friends too: I make friends with someone, introduce them to another of my friends and they become better friends with them (two of my friends are about to go on holiday together).
Am aware that I sound like a five-year-old, but I just feel like there's no one to turn to. DH does his best, but points out that wanting to be loved doesn't mean people love you...
How can I grow up - and get over myself? I know it's immature and I hate to sound so whiney. How do I snap out of this?. Has anyone else dealt with this?

Hey you, it sounds like you are feeling low about yourself - that can have a huge effect on your relationships with others - is that the case?

I'm sure you are loved, especially by your sister and your mum. You are obviously envious of other people's closeness, though.

Everyone goes through a period like this. The needier you are, the less likely others will want to be with you, unfortunately. When you don't crave to be called, invited, etc people tend to call/invite you more.

My advice would be to put aside thoughts of how others are better friends and concentrate on yourself. Do things you enjoy. Go to the gym. Start running. It does wonders for the self-esteem.

Also, once in a while (not too often), invite people over for a coffee, lunch, sunday brunch with the kids, whatever. People become better friends by spending more time with each other.

yep but that's nothing new! And of course I realise that people prefer more upbeat friends/relations - just not sure how to make myself more cheerful...

oops that was a reply to chewitt. CoteDAzur you're right of course. I just don't seem to get out of the cycle...and that gets me more down about lack of friends!