seperating and 5 months pregnant..

[louisewilliams]

My partner and I are seperating and the level headed side of says this is the right thing to do... looking back over last 2 years he's been pretty mean to me says things like I should never of had children, or at least with my third child on the way I can give it a go at getting it right this time. Went to see a solicitor and felt imbarased as talking through the breakdown the relationship seems quite sublime obusive.
I've been to the housing and signed on at the social and never thought I'd find myself in this position - homeless soon to be! Most days I tell myself I'll get through this as I have to for the kids but just sometimes I feel like going to bed, shutting the curtains and just being left alone.
I have mediation with this ex-partner on monday and wanted to ask anyone who reads this for advice on Contact.
I have a son by my first marriage and he lived with me 7 days on, 7 days off and I think its important that he and his sister who adore each other spend family time together at the weekend. However my ex will be asking for contact at weekends. I am going to suggest that my ex has contact with my daughter every other weekend so she can spend 2 weekends a month with her brother and we can do stuff together as a family. Can anyone out there offer some sound advice on this?
also with regards to child maintenance I was thinking of going down the root of a maintenance agreement without getting the CSA involved - anyone got any advice on this too.

We have defined contact order, example: friday we pick children up from school and then drop them off at their mums Sunday @ 10.30 am one night a week mid week, the week after would be pick children up Saturday evening at 6pm from mums, drop them off Monday morning at School. Two weeks a year for family holiday.

As for the CSA advise, I dont think that my advise would benefit you as I have a very dim view on the way they run. If you can come to some sort of an agreement without them it will keep your relationship when having to speak with your ex a little more amicable.

I also think you are very brave doing this being 5 months pregnant, I wish you good luck and you know you can make it work for you.

thanks for advice and support.... and just as i thought try the amicable root for maintenance rather than csa.

Good luck when youcome t discuss all of this with your ex partner, it just gose to show that you are being the responable parent in all this.

Keep us posted on how it all goes