My h and I are separated. He suddenly became verbally and emotionally abusive this time last year. I told him that he could only come back if he sought help.
I stuck to my guns despite a lot of heartache and my own work on issues to do with my own family, who are now out of my life.
He has been seeing a psychotherapist for a couple of months, which I accept is not very long.
We have been rebuilding a relatiobship, to th point of him staying overnight. The fisrt time was fine...good even, so we thought that we would move on a step and have a holiday together, which is all booked.
This last saturday, we went to the village carnival together with the dc's
He decided that everyone was blanking him disrespecting him and believed him to be a monster akin to Gary Glitter...his words. He burst into tears in the playhround.
We went home and he just went on and on and on, saying that I had turned the entire village against him and that these were all my friends who I had poisoned to hate him and he could never come here again.
Actually people have said to me today how lovely it was to see him and how good it was that we were rebuilding things.
Saturday night got so bad, non stop, I mean I don't know how he even drew breath, ranting aout how a particular friend of mine is a prostitute (she isn't) and other stuff about all my friends and how awful they all are.. In the end I asked him to leave.
He is furious that I asked him to leave. He is refusing to come on holiday.
The following day, Sunday was ds's birthday which obviously was ruined, and dd was devastated...again.
Is he just playing all those horrible emotionally abusive games to try and isolate me again? Before he went, we never went out, I wasn't allowed on facebook and any friends I'd had in the past were always criticised until I gave up trying. Since he's gone I have even had an old friend of mine to my home!!! This has never happened when we were together.
He told me that his therapist who allegedly runs a freedom programme, had told him that I was over reacting, and me going on the freedom programme was like taking a sledge hammer to crack a nut. I don't believe that for one single moment.
A moment later he doesn't appear to remember having said these things.
Is he your common or garden abuser, or is he really rather poorly?