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Does anyone live with a "dry" alcoholic?? Please help

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vintagewarrior · 11/07/2010 16:20

Hi all. Since the birth of ds 2 years ago, our relationship has really hit the skids. His moodiness the main factor. He's seemed to manage to put the blame at my door for most of it to the point of me being on ad's. After a dreadful holiday last week, he moved out for a few days ( at my insistence ). Finally confided in a friend of ours last night and she said she thinks he's a dry alcoholic!! Very very similar (freakishly so) behaviour to her ex. Well to say I'm astounded is an understatement. I know he is weird about drink (abstains for months at a time) and used to drink way too much, but this has thrown me. He lives his life with an inner rage always drinks too much once he starts etc. But as he drinks so rarely now I had no clue this might be the problem?? I'm freaking out, have phoned him and told him to come round for a chat and why, but don't know what comes next!!! Will he see the connection when I show him the aa website, or try to blame me??? Any replies will be greatfully received!!

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gettingeasier · 16/07/2010 15:31

wish I had left which would have jolted him into the decision to stop drinking or if not then at least I wouldnt have been putting up with him.

Saying that posts about dry alcoholics sound very much like what I imagine I would have been subjected to

gettingeasier · 16/07/2010 15:39

ItsGrace I have just read your post properly -sorry all the alcohol talk sent me into my own thoughts already having a bad day.

Very brave to admit that. I too smoke and drink far more than is good for me but by comparing myself to exh dont feel I have a problem when actually I probably do

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usedtobe · 16/07/2010 16:44

i would support him if he was doing something!
since i asked him to stop drinking we have been rowing more less evey day and he has been having a drink more less every day (only a beer or too but still not exactly trying to stop is it?)
after major one last week he finally agreed to see doctor so im waiting to see if hes going to go to his app..
i dont think hes alcoholic (yet) but why does he have such a hard time giving it up? i want him to adress hes issues before it gets any worse

sorry for going on

swallowedAfly · 17/07/2010 01:58

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