I am a regular but namechanging as dh often reads MN.
So DH and I have been together for 10 years, have two children together. Generally life has been pretty settled and happy.
About 7 years ago while i was pregnant with ds I found out that dh had kissed a woman on his works leaving do and had stayed at her house with his mate that night. dh swears that nothing happened more than kissing and his mate seperately backed him up. I only found this out while playing games on his mobile and having a sneaky look at his texts, to find one from her.I confronted him and it all came out.
Anyway I admit to occasionally checking his phone from time to time but never found anything suspicious.
Recently our sex life has petered out and we rarely have sex, more out of never spending time together than not fancying each other but I am sure that is also part of it.
On friday night he went out for a sports presentation do and when he came into our bedroom at about 11pm I was pretty much asleep but opened one eye as he went back out of the room and saw him texting. He doesn't have many texts as a rule and his mates don't text him often at all.
Yesterday out of curiosity I checked his texts and in the sent box there was a text saying "its only a coffee, it will be okay"... I didnt get chance to check the inbox for the matching message IYKWIM.
Dh stayed up late last night and when i was up with the kids this morning I checked again and the message had been deleted.
Am i being super suspicious for no reason or should I ask him about the texts?
I don't want to confront him about nothing but I have a sinking feeling which is getting me down.
TIA