A question about passion, sex, all that sort of thing....

[Elmtree1Ems]

Hey to all on the board.

This might sound like a bit of an odd question but I was wondering if anyone had ever had a relationship where the passion DIDN'T go?

It's just that it seems to me that all the advice and agony aunt columns are about how it all fades and you are left with companionship but no real sparks and so on and I sort of got to thinking...but who said it had to be like that?

I mean is it really not possible to have a LTR where you still fancy each other like mad and want to sh*g each other all the time?

Isn't that kind of sad if so?!!!

We are 20+ years together.

Have had some lean years (passion-wise) for varied reasons to do with child-rearing, lack of any child, infertility etc etc

There was some years where we were in a "holding pattern" kind of relationship, but managed to keep the respect we felt for each other intact

In the last few years it has veered the other way, and we are passionate again, have more sex than we have ever had. It may be to do with the dc growing up etc and having more "us time", I dunno, but it is very much in evidence !

Hey Grace - I love that study! All I know is that there has only really ever been one man whose smell has sent me crazy and thats my current. I think we are swans I really do, but we are still in the early part.

I just know that with anyone else i've ever been with even after 6 months that excitment had gone, and any pasison I had was fastly waning. With my BF now it's like the more time goes on the more I want him, he has changed me form someone who thought she was not that bothered about sex to this woman I don;t even recognise...so sexual and confident with it and happy in it. It's bloody ace actually.

Mouseface - LOL! this is true