Hi
That bit of farnham is great. Its a lovely green leafy area. I've got friends who have a lovely massive house in Bourne area and seem really happy there.
Schools there are the best in farnham too- this is unfortuantely reflected in the prices.
The only thing about that part of farnham that is worth noting is that it gets a bit of a log jam during rush hours. Particularly where the B3001 comes down towards the A31 and past the station. There is a level crossing there and the traffic is often very slow. I know less about the traffic coming down A287 towards farnham. But it seems that the A31/ Farnham bypass gets pretty slow in both directions and particularly around the "shepherd and flock" (named due to the pub in the middle) roundabout on the east of farnham. Guess it depends what time of day your DH will leave for work.
I dont know Rowledge personally but I know my friends with the large house mansion also looked in that area and they are quite particular so I can only assume its good.
Crondall is on the other side of Farnham and its a lovely village. Not sure of the schools there but its great with a really villagey feel. That might be worth looking at too if you can get your DH to feel comfortable being in the countryside.
From Farnham you get 2 choices of hospital. The Royal Surrey in Guildford (15mins along the A31) or the Frimely Park Hospital in Frimely which is up the A331 towards the M3 (probabaly 15mins too).
Trains are good from Farnham - its about 1 hr to London Waterloo and you should get a seat from there in the mornings.
I'd say its a good town for children. The town feels safe in itself if you get what I mean. I happily spent my maternity leave in Farnham town (was in town a couple of times a week at least)with my group of mum friends and it is great for that. There are some great parks suitable for children of different ages (playgrounds etc).
If I could afford Bourne/ South Farnham - it would be my area of choice.
Happy to answer more questions!