We have got really rude, snobby neighbours.

[Flightattendant25]

I didn't realise quite how rude until last night and it's making me feel quite upset.

We moved here last summer - it's a run down house in a very wealthy street, many families been here for donkeys years with grown up children - they are lovely as far as the ones we've met go.

However there are a few houses that have quite recently been bought and done up by new people - obviously very wealthy new people because you couldn't buy a place here without pots of the stuff. (we rent - ironically the cheapest place I've seen in this town for years, due to neglect)

I've always made an effort to smile and take post round and stuff, the time I did this for next door, I was met with a very uptight, almost bemused response - she said thankyou and I think she smiled, but I introduced myself and she didn't, in fact she seemed keen to close the door.

That was months ago and we haven't spoken since - despite regularly being in the garden at the same time, although there is a hedge so she pretends we are not there I suppose (my children are quite noisy - I apologised for this the first time I met her and she said it was Ok).

Anyway yesterday the stupid parcelforce man asked me to take a parecl for them, I was busy with a guest at the time so didn't like to argue with him - it was for some newish people across the road.

I took it round to them at about 8, as they hadn't come to get it and the car was there.
I rang a dodgy looking bell, waited a minute, then knocked gently. She opened the door right then, looking quite fed up, and I said brightly 'Hello, we were given this today,' and she then looked even more perplexed, I said 'did you have a card?' and she said 'No, not that I know of' - anyway I was trying to gesture where we lived so she didn't think I was some random stranger, but I think she must have seen me before and if not she was still rude, as she closed the door on me with a cursory 'thankyou', no eye contact and no smile.

I walked away feeling quite rubbish.
Obviously I shan't take a parcel for them again but what a cow.

I probably looked too unsuitable for the neighbourhood.

There is anothere woman across the road who continually ignores us, despite repeated sightings - she really acts like we are invisible. So I took pleasure in another town once, as we were behind her in the post office and I said something regarding our road to ds1, and I know she turned to look at us and I then completely ignored her

We have a couple like that on our street but most are lovely. Our biggest problem comes from the racing hostel across the road, but it is always entertaining when the police go round on a saturady night
Don't worry about them, they are obviously "Very Important" and how dare you touch their post!!

Gawd, I hate the postman/parcelforce man! I always end up taking parcels in for my neighbours, as I work from home. Noone ever comes round to get their stuff, even though I know that a card has been put through their door.
It's as if I am there for their convenience, they can just order what they like, knowing that they won't be in and then, like magic I will appear and present them with their items.

Our neighbours are OK, immediate ones lovely, but some others sometimes wave and say hello and other times just blank me. Irritating but fine with me (now I have had the last 4 years to get used to it).

We have chavs louts that cause us nothing but misery - swap ya

i hate snobs!!
there are one or two couples living in my street and they think theyre the dogs balls!! BTW we live in one of 5 streets entirely made up of 2up 2down houses!! our house is nice and im not in the least bit bothered about what others in the street have or havent got but these people seem to sneer at others including me and my DH and always give my DD funny looks even to the point of pulling their DS away from her when she went over to say hello to him saying 'come on DS you dont want to play with her' i actually went over to get her that time and said quite loudly 'come on DD come and play by our house its much nicer'
i think pretty much all you can do is rise above it and be yourself who cares about the snobbery as long as you and your family are happy and healthy you have all you need
xx ei xx

She said thank you, yabu.

Miserable old bat/hag/bride of Satan (*delete as appropriate) Next time - stamp on the parcel and then deliver it.

Mind you I'd swap you for the lot that moved in across the road with a pit bull thing. Wouldn't open their gate, let alone deliver the parcel, even the postman refuses to deliver if the hound is in the garden!

Fair enough, I could do worse

dogs particularly Not Good..

Sorrento - it's not in aibu, plus the way she looked at me kind of made up for the 'thankyou' in a big way.

Our parcelforce guy always seems to be on drugs. He wears yellow shades, has long hair and says 'cool' a lot. I'm not convinced he delivers anything much. I'd give him house room in fact for several hours but not his blardy parcels, no way, never again.

Blimey. I think you are being waaaay too paranoid tbh. I'm quite sure it wasn't even about you at all. She'd probably just had a rough day or perhaps she's painfully shy.

Possibly, but she didn't look shy, she looked stroppy and as though I was just a piece of dirt who had somehow stolen her parcel.

I don't know, maybe it is just me - but I know a friendly person when I see one, they usually smile and I certainly would if someone came to give me a parcel they'd taken for me.

I guess we all have different standards of rudeness, don't we.

I don't think it's about standards of rudeness tbh. I really think you've taken it far too personally. Don't worry about it. Even if she was stroppy she might have had a bad day at work or be feeling ill or something.

As a wise woman once said, "if you go around looking for things to be offended about then you'll find them".

Take no notice. You are probably reading too much into it.

Thanks.

I don't get the snobby part. In what way was anybody snobby to you?

I'll swap your silent and tight lipped 'snobs' for my loud/ aggro chavs any day of the week - and you can take the friendly but inconsiderate students as a bonus.

Morris, I find it hard to define but I perceived it as snobbery towards someone they know is less well off, lives in a scruffier house, etc. I could have been wrong.

Flight

When I met my neighbours they thought I was snobby. Actually it was right in the middle of DS2's diagnosis and i was out of my mind. Actually DS1 leant over the fence and told eldest son that DS2 was autistic - he told his mum that DS1 said his brother was artistic and she thought I was a snob and a ponce

As someone who gets 'wanker' and 'who the fuck do you think you are' shouted at them and has had stuff thrown through DDs window - please don't assume it is snobbery.
She might be nice, she might be farking rude, she might be shy - she could have ASD like DS2 > but don't assume it is snobbery unless she shouts "get off my geraniums" and shoots at you.

Ok thanks Paggy. Sorry you've been through all that. I have probable Aspergers so I probably come across a bit odd anyway

Maybe she did have a bad day. I'll wait and see what she's like next time. I've no intention of shouting 'wanker' at her whatever.

You seem to be writing a lot of posts lately telling me what is what...I do appreciate it! (personal MN mentor/guru)

flightattendant25, I completely understand what you mean.

Fortunately, we don't have stuck up neighbours, but my DP often gets treated like some kind of low-life because he happens to have a strong Liverpool accent (even though he has a degree and a professional job).

Usually it happens when we are in some trendy, Bodenish place in Cornwall - it makes my blood boil . DP just laughs about it and calls them twats behind their backs.

Thankyou Doc. How silly that people judge on his accent.

I love a good scouse accent. in fact have been known to affect one at times!

at flight.

I sound very bossy don't I?

Actually I sometimes think that the one shouting wanker was someone who knew me ....

No not bossy. Just sensible

It's the way you say it. iyswim. I think I might have to start following you round the boards asking for help with random daily decisions.

Flightattendant I really think the problem lies with her not you. Silly cow - who does she think she is?

We also rented a house once, in a cul-de-sac that had the look of Edward Scissor Hands land about it. we were known as "the ones that live in the rented house". The only time anyone spoke to us directly was when they knocked into our car. We were there a whole year....and I am a friendly and helpful person.

Funnily enough, I rapidly stopped taking parcels etc in for the whole neighbourhood ( I was a stay at home mum) and got an immense amount of satisfaction from this.

However, not as much as when recently one of them knocked on our door a few streets away to ask me sign a petition against an enormous estate being built on their back fence and ruining their view. Took great delight in telling them I had no interest in their view or property price.