Blimey! Thanks ever so much for such comprehensive responses. I guessed it wouldn't be straightforward, but I am - maybe naively? - surprised that tax is rarely black and white. I thought that someone, somewhere, would be able to say that my tax bill - should I go ahead with this project - would definitely involve x, y and z. I'd need to be fairly (very) sure of what my tax liability would be before starting.
As for going ahead and planning something - this hasn't incurred any costs. I've done it myself, I love doing this kind of thing and am part-trained in it, and the creative side has been an absorbing outlet for me after a traumatic separation.
WRT point (1), XP and I bought the property together over three years ago, to be a family home. We thought we might radically refurbish it over time, but only as a single dwelling. The idea occurred to me earlier this year, of subdividing the property (and taking it up a dormer storey) to make a mini-terrace of three cottages.
Despite your best efforts, I'll be honest and say that some of this is still Greek to me. How would what I have in mind be a "stock transfer"? Sorry if I'm being thick, but I'm arty farty - this kind of thing doesn't make much sense to me!
The next steps, as I see it, are:
(1) Speak to a tax adviser now about the tax liability of such a project.
(2) Apply for planning permission, even if it doesn't look like I could undertake the build tax-effectively myself.
(3) When my financial situation is clear, either sell the property (ideally with planning permission) if it's obvious that I won't be able to afford the build, or seek builders' quotes.
(4) If quotes are too high, sell the property as a trio of building plots with planning permission.
(5) If quotes are reasonable, proceed with build (in liaison with, or armed with information from, a tax accountant).
Thanks so much, ladies. I'm saving this thread and will take the points you've raised to an accountant specialising in property tax.