Moving with new baby dilemma - tell me what to do.

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We have been trying to sell our house for the last 7 months as I am expecting DC2 in February. One sale neared completion and then fell through about a month ago (during the week of completion - idiots).

We then found another buyer who wanted the house and we accepted their lower offer (15% off asking price which had already come down 10%). We aimed to move mid january (36 weeks pregnant) but they pulled out yesterday (more idiots).

Ludicrously, the agent got someone else round to view the house and they have put in an offer which matched the most recent one (are you still with me?). However, they aren't in a position to complete until April, although they can exchange in January.

We have found our dream house who have accepted our low offer so I would be gutted to lose it.

My questions are .....

• should we take our chances that the market will recover next year and we might get a better price in the spring?

• is moving with an 8 week old baby better or worse than moving when 8 months pregnant? Is there anyone who has done either?

I am incapable of rational decision.

Moved at 8 months

Had a troupe of family at my beck and call

Planted a chair in the middle of the new front room and directed unloading operations from there

Fab

HTH

Not a lot of difference re. 8 months pregnant or 8 week baby - either way you will not be doing an awful lot .... partner will be chief mover and you can be director of operations or go somewhere else for the day

I don't think you will get a better price for several years now (but I am not an expert .... just read the money pages in the papers).

Lol .... crossed posts with ToysAreLikeDogs.

I did it with 6 weeks to go, I cleaned, hoovered etc and got friends and family to do the heavy work, had my 16 month old helping to. It worked well for me that way.

TBH I'd be inclined to take you, DC1 and DC2 somewhere else (staying with family?) for the weekend and let your DH/DP do the nands-on stuff.

I'd be surprised if you get a better price in the spring, TBH.

Dd3 was 6 weeks old - I was still bandaged up as my caesarian wound hadn't healed. I had terrible pnd. My dad had died 3 days earlier. I sat in the lounge with dd3 while dp did everything and my mum and brother coped with the other dds. All in all though I think it was preferable to moving while pregnant.

Good luck!

You won't get a better price in the spring and if you can get them to exchange in Jan then I think you're on to a winner tbh as that will take a lot of the uncertainty out of it. Go fo it - but be clear you are condescending to take their price on the basis of a fast exchange. Then hire help for the move - I was stunned by how little extra it cost for the movers to pack us as well as move us...

Yes moving companies generally find it easier to move stuff they've packed so the rates for packing your whole house are surprisingly low (and they can do it in a day).

i'd move pg

i did at 7 months, it was not unstressful, but i couldn't have contemplated it with a new baby - you want to enjoy those moments and focus on the child imo. moving more compatible with nesting than nursing.

if you have your dream house and can afford it - go for it!

I ahve moved with a 5 week old baby, and can asure you, there will be no time to pack - you'll need to have it done professionally.

Personally I would rather move once the baby was born, but that's just me. I really get into nesting, and have to have the house perfect, to the point of washing the bed sheets every day, so I just couldn't cope with the thought of moving when pg.

I moved with a 5 week old baby, pay packers to sort it all for you.

moved at 8 months... now got an 9 week dd. it was stressful at the time but moving now is unimagineable!

take offer. who knows what will happen over the next few months.

best of luck!

Thanks for all your wise words.

I think we are going to take the offer. The prospect of putting our house back on the market after the baby is born and having to keep it in a 'viewable' state is bringing me out in hives! Not to mention moving with a 6 month old and a 3 year old.

I'll get my clipboard ready!

Just seen this, hope everything goes well for you. We moved a year ago, 4 days before a planned cs! It was great, noone expected me to do a thing so I could just concentrate on looking after 3yr old ds and planning xmas which was happening a week later. Wouldn't have planned things quite that way but it all turned out well in the end but we were very glad when january rolled round and things got back to 'normal'.

having sold a house with a new baby (this year - so took months), I would say go for the offer. Keeping a place viewable with a baby is very hard. And having moved with a 9 month old, we wished heartily that we'd moved before he'd been mobile - would have made packing/unpacking SO much easier!

If you can sit with your 8 week old, and let everyone else get on with doing the moving around, I'm sure it will be fine.

I have moved (continents!) with a 12 week old baby, moved again when said baby was 16 months.

Had building work (major) done when toddler was 2 and i was pregnant (all but moved house, really) - right up until 3 weeks before dd2 arrived.

Moved again last month with a 4 year old and a 20 month old.

I haven't seen much difference in any of it, really.

the easiest one was the first when dd1 was a baby - tiny babies don't need much other than you and milk.

the moves with toddlers have been harder, as need to organise lunch etc (dd1 is ASD so loads of issues with that alone) and favourite toys, and so on.

I'd take moving with a baby any day over moving while pregnant - you may be able to do something when baby sleeps (I hat being helpless and watching dh put everyhting in the wrong place) but tryiong to do that when 8 months pregnant would be a real hassle, imo.

Moved with toddler and 4mo - honestly, children least of worries, they couldn't have cared less about chaos (then spent next 10 months living with builders). It is much more stressful trying to keep a house tidy for viewers when you have a small child/baby cluttering up the place .