@HinzKunz i get the lack of excitement, its because you are constanly having to risk assess, looking for problems instead of thinking where will the xmas tree go. The house is not done so it takes vision to see beyond it, thats why i said do you really want the work, we have had 4 properties over the yrs and every 1 of them we had to replace kitchens/bathrooms, construction work. You said previously you liked the new build, why? Is it because it was done, finished, easy. This is what swayed it for me. Plus you fool yourself when walking round the house then when you leave its back to reality. You doubt your judgement. Is there something better out there, chasing something that is not there. Sometimes facing the reality that this is it. This is what you can get with your money. Its not until you make a firm offer and stick to it that the excitment will come back.
I had to view our onward on my own and to make the decision to offer as my husband had to work, we didnt want to wait til the weekend, it would have gone. The stress of trying to make a decision on a 20min viewing is crazy. There is no enjoyment in it. Even after i offered, on the way home I didnt think woohoo this is the 1. I felt nothing. I still had worry if id made a mistake. Tbh I had to give my own head a shake, its everything we want on paper, i didnt walk in and have no feeling, it was cosy, flowed nice, I saw us living there. Its a bog standard detached 3 bed older new build. Christ bathroom and kitchens are done. However all i felt was dread. I didnt think omg I love it, I kept looking at it on rightmove and thank good it has 360 view so i was looking zooming in for problems. The gut feeling is we could be happy here but it wasnt instant omg I love it, now we are conveyancing and further down the line, im buzzing with excitment, im online planning flooring, new sofas etc window shopping, im looking at colours. I literally cant wait to get in there now.
On the way to the viewing a for sale sign was up on a house on my estate, it set me in a right tail spin, i was genuinely panicking, rushed on rightmove but it wasnt there. I know the lady who lives there and I know that the house needs a full reno.
It was hard for me to get out of a programmed mindset id had all my life, buy a property do it up sell it on, why would i buy a property with a new bathroom/kitchen. Buy the reno, but then I remebered the reality of the work 🤣, no thanks.
Now the reality is that the coveyancing has started and we had a 2nd viewing im actually more excited than ever, i cant wait to move in, my dh pointed out further little probs that id missed but I dont care, my mindset is this is the 1.