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Could you live in a doer upper dream house and renovate gradually?

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Otter1986 · 21/05/2026 14:29

Has anyone bought a house that is a true state and just lived with it? How hellish was it?

Our dream home has come on the market. It is wildly overpriced - as is everything locally - but the house will be insanely amazing when it is done. Currently it is two flats and it is a total state.

After payng for the house - including fees - we could waterproof the house (roof, windows, pointing, render). Then we'd have a slosh fund that would cover plastering the third floor bedrooms so we and our kids had a decent room to sleep in. Then, we could redo the bathroom cheaply and could put in a really cheap / second-hand kitchen.

But that is it really. The heating, electrics, other rooms would have to wait. It is would be - at best - a 'boho chic' style of living. Think sagging ceilings, horrible old wallpaper that is in poor condition etc.

Everything else would have to just be done slowly or not at all. We'd have to do lots of stuff ourselves - skirtings etc... We've done it before but it was a much smaller house.

Would we regret it? Or would we say - in five years when it is done - wow, look at our awesome and enormous house on an absolutely ideal road!

We're in 2 minds - we can tighten our belt and totally do it. We could even borrow more in a couple of years when it came to remortgage if we were struggling. But is it really worth it?

Our two kids aren't old but aren't so young that it would be dangerous. And when they are teens it will give us lots of space.

Thoughts?

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Wooky073 · 28/05/2026 23:57

It wasnt meant to be on this occassion. But honestly it may be for the best.

What I didnt say about my experience of a doer upper was that it is hard work and at time very depressing. The excitement shine soon wears off. Plus once in we discovered far more issues than were disclosed. We ended up needing to live in a campervan and tent whilst it was rewired and it was cold at night. 8 years later and im still doing it up because I also work and have children to look after. Dealing with workmen is a nightmare too. Due to being rushed (due to the above) ive made some bad decisions on things along the way. Plus ive had to deal with other life events such as bereavements. Having a doer upper for a long time is draining. The other thing no one really talks about is that whilst all of the initial really bad bit was going on and we had no working kitchen, so living off microwave meals in a temporary kitchen and working late into the night and being exhauested all the time - my health went downhill. I also got plaster dust in my eye and ended up needing an eye procedure. So dont feel bad that you didnt get it - you have probably avoided a decade of misery

ThisBirdOnThatRoof · 28/05/2026 23:59

Please check with a conservation architect and do not waterproof so much that the building can't breathe, if it is stone or an older build.

A French gully instead of a damp course, secondary not double glazing, limewash not acrylic paint...

Sorry you did not get this house. Bear in mind for next 💐💐💐

Salome61 · 29/05/2026 00:27

We did it with an 1847 listed grade II railway station, and I really regret it. Both of us spent everything we had, including inheritances, on the house and then my husband got ill - and died. House wasn’t finished and I had to sell for a song at auction. Big mistake.

Blueuggboots · 29/05/2026 02:30

You need to sort the electrics before you do anything else. No point doing bathroom/kitchen even cheaply if you need to rewire…

Getitoffmychest · 29/05/2026 02:55

Sounds fab! For safety reasons I would do electrics asap due to fire risk

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