Pulling out of house purchase???

[CountingSheep27]

Would you pull out of a house purchase if unsure? We are a bit stuck because our current house is sold (not exchanged yet), we are due to move back down south to Surrey, we’ve applied for a school there with reception start this September, we have a house under offer near the school, and now we are unsure about the house. The whole move is quite loaded already because we equally want to live in the north and the south (we’ve done numerous pros cons list already). The main reason to move back is because of husband’s job and he has to be in office more days per week. There is nothing for him work wise up here and nothing totally remote. We had planned to rent in the south so as not to rush buying but there is literally nothing to rent in the area. What would you do? We feel stuck, under pressure. Also we are due a baby end May so that’s adding another dimension. But we have arranged to have baby up here and complete on our house sale in July after baby is born at least and before school starts.

If you re-read what you’ve written I think you’ve answered your own question. It sounds very much like you want, and need to pull out.

If there are no houses to rent and you need to move for your husband's job asap especially given the school start in September then I wouldn't risk it all by pulling out. It sounds like you need to move but obviously it's all very stressful especially with the new baby on the way.

Well, if you have to move for your husband’s job, then your options are your husband finds a new and completely unrelated role or you move.

There are no places to rent and you need somewhere to live. A house you are unsure on is better than nowhere to live. You can always move later. Yes it’s an expensive way of doing things but different houses suit us at different points in our life.

I was unsure of our previous house. It was basically the best we could afford but not at all what I wanted. I’m not going to lie, I definitely felt I’d made a mistake for the first few months there but it grew on me. I didn’t love the house but it still became my home, it had a lot of precious memories. This house is not your preferred choice but it is the place that your first DC is going to come home and tell you all about their new best friend at school, the house that second DC will take their first steps in. It’s the house that means DH gets to keep his job and presumably not travel so much and can be more present for you and the kids.

If you are going to pull out, you need to do it ASAP. Not only so it’s fair on the rest of the chain but you’ll need to sort out school and what your husband does with his job.