Four years and still unsettled

[OneCyanHiker]

lived here four years and various furnishing and painting. Can’t think of what else we need to do but still feeling like it’s unfinished or somethings missing…. Anyone else had this? Any tips figuring out what might be causing it?

That's a bit odd OP, after 4 yrs. Do you think it could be something other than interior decor? Are you happy with room sizes and the house location? Are you missing amenities/friends/family you had around you previously?
It could simply be that your fresh paint and furnishings don't sing to you and if so, simply trying a different colour scheme might help.

Does it all work for you?

We've been in 4 years and it's just this year that I have finally got the kitchen properly organised. Everything is in the right place and no cupboard is a mess.

I think we’ve made it work.

I’m not 100% happy with the room sizes (it’s quite small) but there’s only two of us.
the rooms are set up so they work for us. We got more cupboards and shelves so everything has a home. We’ve worked out which plants survive well and got rid of the ones that didn’t (they died)

Location- wise it’s not the best but again, we’ve adapted. I’ve got a routine that works using nearby amenities and commuting via the park and ride etc and seeing friends. and if we did move, we’d probably only move 10mins walk away.

this is why I feel like something is off because on paper it should be fine.

How does the other one of the two of you feel about it?
It's odd, we moved in October and I'm delighted with my house, it's spot on for me. You need to try and put your finger on what's troubling you.

He thinks it’s fine and not worth moving. Because a slightly bigger house (like 1930s house with two chimneys instead of one, slightly closer (10mins walk) to the nice part of town/ station would cost a lot more and he doesn’t think it’s worth the move, especially if we’re not sure what’s wrong now.

I moved out of the desirable area where I was renting to the next borough over, to be able to afford to buy. It was only 10 minutes from where I’d been before, and actually more convenient in terms of transport. I was able to buy a whole little house. I was hoping that the area I moved to might slowly “come up” and be more like my original area. Twenty years and an in-borough move later it hadn’t, and I was still regretting not having held out for a flat in the first area, which was just so much more me. Compromises can make sense, but inevitably have an element of missing out, and it doesn’t always go away. Sorry if that’s a bit depressing, it’s empathy really.

We are 10 years and a lot of improvements in, and I’m still not feeling the love!!

Have you got rugs, paintings, books and lamps? All can be found second hand.
Have you got local friends and got to know your neighbours?

We have been in our house 13 years and I love it now- feels like home but I think it took around 5 years- the house did need work and we only moved as previous house was too small (loved that house).

Do you feel home and relaxed when you get in.