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Would you buy a house that doesn't steal your heart?

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Sorethroatpain · 19/02/2026 12:45

I am in a quandary. There is a house on the market which in so many ways is perfect; location, room flow, size and garden outlook are all excellent. This combination is hard to achieve in our search area. It is however a chalet which is not really my preferred style. This house is intended to be a new start in a fresh location for me and DH as my children are flying the nest. So the question is would you compromise on external looks/style if everything else is right? My husband is keen to view but there's no point if I can't get over my (probably unreasonable) reservations.

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treeowl · 19/02/2026 12:49

You need to see it before discounting.

Harrietsaunt · 19/02/2026 12:51

It’s not clear from the post, have you physically been in the house? That may sound obvious but I know people who make decisions about houses without setting foot inside. As PP said, you have to get in there to know.

All I can say is, I have been bullied into buying houses that didn’t give me “the feeling” and it is a big regret.

My current home gave me that feeling immediately and still does eight years later, despite its many shortcomings on paper.

Carryitjoyfully · 19/02/2026 12:52

We did exactly that. I still don't like it from the outside but it is our home and I love the inside. For us it was affordability and location but I am so glad that we had that head over heart moment with it. It's our forever house now.

OhQuelleSurprise · 19/02/2026 12:52

I think you should definitely see it in person before you discount it.

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 12:54

I don’t love mine from the outside but since I have never sat and looked at the outside of my house

you would be hard pushed to move me from this house though

Mirrorxxx · 19/02/2026 12:55

I have twice. Once it was a mistake and once it was worth it.

Pancakeflipper · 19/02/2026 12:56

You need to view it.
We discounted our house. But did eventually view it (it came back on the market, only property ticking location/size/price). DP adamant it was a no whilst driving to view it. And hey ho.... even though it needed work doing, we just could see ourselves living in it.

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Sorethroatpain · 19/02/2026 13:07

An interesting spread of opinions! I think I should probably go and see it. Nothing lost after all. And as a PP said it's not as though I'm going to be sitting outside all day staring at the front aspect.

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Sorethroatpain · 19/02/2026 13:09

I think the issue is that every house I've bought so far in my life has been a compromise. Sometimes it was style, sometimes size and sometimes location. My hope was that this time everything could be perfect. But perhaps that's just a pipe dream and unrealistic.

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Sunshineandgrapefruit · 19/02/2026 13:12

Yes because it's practical. I would definitely see it though and if your gut says no walk away. You can always find another which would work equally well.

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 19/02/2026 13:13

Also perfection doesn't exist

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 19/02/2026 13:14

I would and did.

It on paper met almost all of our requirements.
I was very tepid during purchase
It took a while but we are very happy here.

theemmadilemma · 19/02/2026 13:18

At least see it. Our latest house hunt took us through 25 houses before we found the one we knew was ours.

But I couldn't have discounted something that met most of our requirements on looks alone.

If you hate it when you're there, fair enough, you will struggle to get through that. But sometimes when you get there, the feeling is just right and it can surprise you.

I was willing to make compromises and I probably have a few smaller ones. It's not a stone farmhouse, it's a single story villa. But it is perfect and it makes me smile when I think about living there.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 19/02/2026 13:21

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 19/02/2026 13:14

I would and did.

It on paper met almost all of our requirements.
I was very tepid during purchase
It took a while but we are very happy here.

Edited

Oh and I avoided viewing it for WEEKS..
We only viewed out of desperation

SundayGirl86 · 19/02/2026 13:22

We did. Practically speaking it met all of our requirements: location, price, the space we needed etc. I didn’t love it as it was a modern house and my dream property is an older one. We bought it though and 5 years later I have to admit it was the best decision we could have made. DH has always liked the house but it took me a long time to come round. I can’t see us moving now.

FinallyHere · 19/02/2026 13:27

Location. Location. Location.

just sayin’

FruAashild · 19/02/2026 13:30

You need to view it since it's perfect on paper. Our current house was perfect on paper but I wasn't sure about the look of the extension from the garden. But once we saw the house we knew it was the one immediately.

Tryagain26 · 19/02/2026 13:30

You need to have a look, you won't know until you see it.
Also most people have to compromise when they buy properties. What matters more?

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 19/02/2026 13:31

Yes, I did exactly that. My house has no curb appeal at all due to some loon deciding to pebble dash a Cornish stone cottage. It's an ugly house and I moved from a stunner!

But the location, garden and views are beautiful (it was mainly location) I'm so glad we didn't buy the picture perfect house in a not so good location.

PigletJohn · 19/02/2026 13:46

Yes, if I needed a house and hadn't got one.

muddyford · 19/02/2026 13:49

I did with our current house. I still don't like it as I did the previous one, which I loved. I won't be sorry to leave it when the time comes.

HeadyLamarr · 19/02/2026 13:59

I wasn't keen on this house when we bought it, but it was the most practical choice.

I love it now. We've stayed 20 years.

cardboard33 · 19/02/2026 14:01

We viewed our current house to rule it out. My husband did not even want to view our first home, let alone make an offer on it, but I talked him round and fortunately hindsight is a wonderful thing. Neither of them were what I had envisaged buying, but we didn't actually like the properties we thought we wanted to buy and the ones we bought ticked the most boxes. If it fits the bill on paper then you should view it.

I don't know where you are in the country, but in most purchases there will be trade offs as usually, unless you build your own house, nothing will be "perfect" in every possible way. We bought in SW London and therefore my "dream" detached house with off road parking, a garage and a utility room is still financially out of reach*, but we do really like our house.

*Although currently living abroad in this exact style of house...

Raven08 · 19/02/2026 14:04

Yes.
It's bricks and mortar.
It can't love you back

KitchenQuestion · 19/02/2026 14:36

Do you really dislike it, or is it just not your preferred style? Only you can decide if you can get over your hang ups about the style, personally I think other things are more important but you have to live there!

Our house didn’t “capture my heart” but it ticked all our boxes and more. It’s a very standard new build house but plenty of scope to do what we want with it internally now and in the future. It has more than enough bedrooms. We have options to change things around and change the purpose of different areas as needed. It’s in the location we wanted. We have the peace of mind of no major shocks hiding like there could be with an old house.