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Small house sadness

76 replies

nc909 · 15/01/2026 10:01

Does anyone else in a small house get really sad that their house is small?

we’re only two people and unlikely to have children. So we don’t need a big house. Ours is a small 1930s semi. Combined living and dining space and a small kitchen.

I just get so envious of other people’s kitchens and downstairs toilets and separate dining rooms.

OP posts:
wishingonastar101 · 15/01/2026 13:10

I've got a massive house.

Can't afford to do it up.
Can't afford a cleaner to clean it
can't afford to heat it
And will be paying off my mortgage forever and ever

Theonlywayicanloveyou · 15/01/2026 13:14

Why are you sad? You have all the space you need. I thought this thread was going to be about teenagers sharing box rooms etc.

FourChimneys · 15/01/2026 13:21

We rattle about in a house which is too big for our needs, but for various reasons we want to stay in for the foreseeable future.

I spend more time than I should on Rightmove, daydreaming over small and cosy cottages and terraced houses.

Nezukokamado · 15/01/2026 13:38

Can you afford somewhere bigger?

ChurchWindows · 15/01/2026 14:24

Please God save me from every being envious of someone's downstairs toilet.

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 15/01/2026 15:08

ChurchWindows · 15/01/2026 14:24

Please God save me from every being envious of someone's downstairs toilet.

I’m envious of church windows 😁

xSideshowAuntSallyXx · 15/01/2026 16:57

I have a 2 bed flat. I miss my old large 3 bed house with dining room and garden, and large kitchen with breakfast bar (and stools i could spin around on) and utility room.

Sadly divorce meant I had to give it up.

My 2 bed flat is my sanctuary, my own house and mine only. I have a list of things I want to do and buy, some small, some big (shower screen, new sofa, hall table, new cushion covers, bath panel, paint, carpet etc). I tick things off as I go and it gives me an enormous sense of satisfaction when I do.

Mum5net · 15/01/2026 17:53

At one stage in my life I downsized from a three-bed terraced house to a one-bed flat, and the reduction to about 40 % of the space I’d had before was a real shock to the system. But instead of focusing on the loss, I tried to luxe the place up as best I could afford and it completely changed how I felt about my home.
If you’ve not already, have a good look on Pinterest for “small and bijou interiors” — there are so many clever storage ideas, luxe looks on a budget, and ways to make tiny rooms feel calm and considered.
If your rooms are calm and considered friends and family will want to be in your small space because it exudes a sense of sanctuary. Essentially we all want a sanctuary.

FedUpandEatingChocolate · 15/01/2026 17:57

I like a smaller house, but I do miss not having a utility room! I have a friend who has the smallest mews house - her and her son live in a tiny space but she's very happy there. I think it's about appreciating what you've got.

I don't think I'd like a huge house, American style. A few extra rooms would be helpful, but no need for a huge hall etc.

SleafordSods · 15/01/2026 21:54

I used to absolutely love my cosy small first home. Half an hour and it was all tidy.

Now I’m in a bigger home and when the DCs leave we will downsize and go back to a smaller home.

I agree with looking at making the downstairs into a kitchen/diner and having a separate lounge. Hopefully you could sneak in a downstairs loo too.

I looked for this layout when we were buying and it’s worked well for us.

I do suspect though that how you’re feeling isn’t over the size of the house, more that you had a plan and it isn’t working out for you? Flowers

Tigerbalmshark · 15/01/2026 22:17

Hmm, I would like a slightly bigger living room (3x4m, would like 5x4m like our previous flat), and a downstairs toilet/second bathroom (there is a queue in the morning). So I am vaguely considering an extension, though we can’t afford it at the minute and I am on the fence about the disruption.

I wouldn’t want a much bigger house though, this is just fine in general. We have a bigger kitchen and extra bedroom, and lovely garden. Maybe you have just outgrown your house OP? You could upsize if you can afford it.

LibertyLily · 15/01/2026 23:00

What @Jugendstiel said re: treating your house as though you absolutely adore it, however different it is from what you wish you had, is so true, imo, and what we always try to do.

We've been fortunate to own some stunning, fairly unique houses of several different architectural styles (but all have been period, characterful properties). They've also been decent sizes. However, often, not in the best of locations.

Each one we've bought - even if we've had our doubts about it being 'the one' and have considered selling from quite early on - we've treated as though we plan to stay forever. This has meant throwing everything at them, renovation- and decorating-wise (not shying away from colour or bold choices), till they are absolutely beautiful internally and externally (imo, of course!).

It's completely changed our feelings towards them - particularly the last one that I went into hating it with a passion, renovated it exactly to our (maximalist) taste using gorgeous materials etc and ended up staying 6+ years. The only thing I liked about it originally was the 0.5 acre wilderness that passed for a garden, but eventually (having created a proper country garden and spared no expense sympathetically restoring the house), I admit to being very sad to sell.

Our current 200 year old cottage was a downsize. It's a third of the size of the largest house we've owned/lived in and undeniably feels small compared to what we've been used to. It has three bedrooms (the largest of which we use as a TV room), a dining hall open plan to the kitchen, a cosy snug, tiny lootility, bathroom and integral garage which the previous owners converted from a room (we plan to reverse this). There's a courtyard garden and parking for one car.

I didn't want to buy it, but moving from a cheaper area back home to a more expensive one, we didn't have a lot of options if we wanted a period house by the sea. It currently lacks storage and the character we love and miss, having been butchered in the 1960s.

But - it's cheap to heat and run (council tax band D instead of the F and G we've previously lived in), is two minutes from the sea and by starting to reinstate the period features and add our own collections of accumulated 'stuff' it already feels so much more homely and welcoming than the bland box we bought just over a year ago.

By the time we're finished it'll be amazing (🤞). Not sure if we'll stay...but if we do, it'll be done to our - very specific - style, in which case it'll be our home rather than a house we renovated blandly to suit someone else!

User415373 · 15/01/2026 23:14

What I struggle with most is the lack of space to entertain. Especially in this cost of living crisis, we would love to be able to have friends over with their kids for a meal, a BBQ, a board game. Bit our rooms are tiny and we can only fit us 4 around the table at.a squeeze .
We very rarely eat out or pay to go to things. Even birthday parties for the kids. We can't afford the village hall and the bouncy castle but a party at home is impossible due to lack of space. So I feel a small house has a big impact on my/our social lives.
Obviously if I could afford a bigger house I could probably afford to socialise more so it's not quite that simple.

Tootsiroll · 15/01/2026 23:22

I LOVE my small house, It's an old two up, two down terrace and the rooms are snug and cozy. I do see the appeal of a larger house but this is perfect for the two of us.

I'm amazed at how warm it is in here even though the heating is barely on. It's easy to keep clean, cheap to maintain (outside of legacy DIY issues from the previous owner) and we don't rattle around.

Zanatdy · 16/01/2026 05:06

Nothing wrong with a house that’s suitable for number of occupants. I am buying soon but currently live in a flat. When thinking of all the things on my desire list for house I want to buy I realised the places i’ve lived in that i’ve been happiest have been flats. Big houses are big bills, lots of upkeep and expense to heat.

Nugg · 16/01/2026 05:25

I have downsized hugely, twice in the last 6 years. Once when my marriage broke up and again a year ago to relocate to a more expensive part of the country.

oh boy do I have to “declutter” every couple of months but it’s SO cheap to run - gas/electricity combined has never been more than £70/mth for example - cleaning is a dream as is maintenance and refurbishing. It’s a 3 bed house with a large lounge and kitchen diner, 2 double beds and a box room/my office, en-suite, main bathroom and downstairs loo it’s just compact and I love it.

Make the most of what you have OP, can you separate your rooms if it’s a 30s semi? Or buy bigger 🙂

EveningSpread · 16/01/2026 05:38

We have a 2 bed terrace, with a living room and kitchen diner. We’re a family of 3.

I sometimes wonder if new acquaintances with bigger houses will look down on or feel sorry for our little house.

But we’re happy. It’s cosy, the mortgage is affordable, it’s cheap to heat, quick to clean, and our finances are bomb proof. We live near town, 2 parks and a mainline train station. We have a garden. It’s all we need.

MermaidMummy06 · 16/01/2026 05:41

Our first home was tiny. I relented & we built a large-ish house. Although the space is necessary for our DC, and two bathrooms is great, I miss how easy it was to care for. So quick to clean, less maintenance & less space for DH & DC to shove clutter. It's all open plan (everything here is) so not cramped, but I still see that house occasionally & wish we still lived in something small.

Morepositivemum · 16/01/2026 05:53

Op we’re a big family in a big house, nothing flamboyant or posh anything but nice. The cleaning and upkeep is ridiculous. Before we had kids we lived in a tiny flat and it took so little cleaning plus it was always warm.

Blooperz · 16/01/2026 06:01

I love a small house!! Economic to run, quick to heat, no pointless clutter, quick to clean and decorate, less DIY, great for growing older in. I dont have aspirations of grandeur, however we live in a beautiful spot with views to die for

Blooperz · 16/01/2026 06:04

I also downsized from a 6 bed Victorian to a 3 bed modern. No regrets.

BooneyBeautiful · 16/01/2026 06:04

Feelinold · 15/01/2026 10:09

Think of all the dusting and cleaning. I get house envy whenever I watch a Netflix series.

I used to live in a small semi and really do miss it. Have you thought about getting a downstairs toilet under the stairs?

I had a Saniflo macerator toilet installed in the cupboard under the stairs last year. I absolutely love it!

HelenHywater · 16/01/2026 08:15

wishingonastar101 · 15/01/2026 13:10

I've got a massive house.

Can't afford to do it up.
Can't afford a cleaner to clean it
can't afford to heat it
And will be paying off my mortgage forever and ever

me too! I'm looking forward to the kids leaving and being fully fledged so I can downsize.

However I really like what @LibertyLily says and rather than sitting here disliking it and counting the years, I'm going to make the changes that I need in order to make my house into my home.

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 17/01/2026 01:30

I think I’m the only one on this thread that loves the space 😆

Gettingfitorbust · 17/01/2026 01:39

is there any reason why you can’t move OP?

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