Move up north or stay down south

[Silvernutmeg70]

I'm divorced with adult children and work from home. I live in the south East. My 21 Yr old son lives in a nearby village with his dad. My daughter is at uni in Newcastle. I have a long term boyfriend but he doesn't want to get a place together with enough room for all of our 4 children to have a base. Should I move back to North Yorkshire near my elderly parents and sister who's just become a single parent? I could help them out and feel useful again which I haven't since becoming an empty nester.

If you will want to live in the SE again then I wouldn't. House prices are mad and it seems the N/S divide gets bigger every year.

Why do you want to move? Are you unhappy where you are? Are you looking for a fresh start? In which case maybe yes (though bearing in mind daughter at uni might well want to come back down south again once she graduates if that’s where she is from) I’d be reluctant to move I think until she was settled after uni (for example if she wants to work in London and needs a base til she can afford her own place etc)

If you are moving to get a size of place to live in a comparable area you couldn't afford down south then probably. But as has been said the house price divide could be a problem. If you want to move to have a 'better' life then yes, lots of North Yorks is lovely?

I'm not very happy here as there are sad memories of my marriage breakdown and my relationship isn't ideal, plus I miss family. The town in north Yorkshire where I'd want to move is actually quite expensive. I'd be moving to an older house. You ho there for the location first and foremost.

It’s a very big step to move so far away from your son. How many years has your daughter got left at uni? I woukd want to wait and see where she gets a job after uni.

My son eventually wants to move elsewhere but who knows where he and my daughter will end up.

Why? The kids could end up in Australia. OP should move to where she wants to.

The north south price divide is getting smaller so I wouldn’t let that put you off

Thats my experience. Moved North 10 years ago expecting never to be able to afford to return, but we can.

It is hard when you have children at those ages, mine are similar (DD just graduated and now living in London which she hates and wants to move from there asap, DS at Uni 3 hours away). Having remarried 6 years ago DH and I have not lived together yet as I wanted to wait until both DC had left home. What are their plans? Who knows! I cannot put my life on hold anymore and am now planning to move in with DH later this year.

My long winded point is that I think you need to do what is best for YOU at this stage and if that is moving then do it.