Normal buyers remorse?

[Ggohome]

My partner and I just bought a house and instead of being excited I’m feeling full of regret. It feels like we’ve overpaid, and since moving in I’m noticing things that are really bothering me:

The road outside is much busier/noisier than I remembered during viewings.I’m very anxious about our cats.
Parking is a pain
The house needs more updating than I realised, which feels overwhelming financially.
The house feels quite dark inside.
Did we overpay?

We moved to this area to be closer to my partner’s family (aswell as it being a great City and some where we both lived previously), but he’s still working at his specialist job 3 hours away, so he’s away Monday–Wednesday nights for the next six months before transferring. That means I’m often in the house alone with my thoughts!

There are positives too of course as we bought it!– we’re close to local cafés and the largest city park, and while the house is darker inside, it’s surrounded by beautiful trees which makes it feel private and green, it has great space and potential.

Right now though, I just can’t shake the feeling of having made a mistake. Has anyone else been through this? Did the feelings pass once you settled in or started making changes? Any tips for coping with noisy roads, cat safety, or just generally getting over house regret would be really appreciated. As I feel like I am spiraling at the moment and for the first time I'm really struggling with my mental health. I have rational moments of ' get the fuck over yourself and move forwards' then the tears come again!

. I'm sure it's absolutely normal. There is also this pressure that as it was expensive that this would be the 'very very long term family home' and I suddenly feel very trapped.

Sorry it's so long!

Ah bless you. I felt like that when I moved in my house. But I actually hated it. I think I’m always an overthinker. I’ve been here three years now and I love it. It’s by no means finished or sorted but we’ve put enough of our stamp on it for it to feel like home. I imagine it’ll feel better when you aren’t alone hsmf the week and once you settled. It’s normal I think. And well done! 👍

Cat proofing for the garden. I used Protectapet- worth every penny! X

Thank you! You're right once we get some initial paint on the walls I'll feel better I'm sure. At the moment it's just overwhelming and feels like I am living in a very strange house!

I’m five months in my new place.

I remember it was six days after moving in, I’d just handed back the keys to my rented previous flat (handy crossover), and I looked around at the dreadful decorating and ancient bathroom and knackered windows and awful carpets and thought ‘oh my god. What have I done?’

I had a massive crisis of faith in my decision making ability and wished bitterly I’d not bought it. Now however with some hard work
and decorating I’m liking it. I’m more settled in the area too.

The house isn’t perfect but I’m making it mine and you will too.

We lived in one house for nine years, that I was not sure about when we moved. DH liked it more than me and more work than we expected was needed because of a cowboy diyer.

When we’d decorated and changed some things, it became home.

Yup. Totally normal. I hated my flat when I first bought it. The place has waaaaay more issues that I realised, was freezing cold in winter. I didn’t realised next door was empty so the noise is surreal (semi detached). Sellers lied about a munch of stuff…
I’m 18 months in and I definitely overpaid by a relevant amount. But it’s one of those things, I couldn’t have known.
But I guess I’m turning the page and taking as an opportunity to create the home of my dreams. It’s my forever home, hopefully, so even if I overpaid, it will mean nothing across my life time.
It takes time! You will soon live your home!

Yeah prices have dropped here, so I do feel I’ve overpaid a bit, and I’ve not yet exchanged or completed 😫. But you can only just make decisions with the info you have at the time. I hope you feel better about the new house soon.

I’d be tempted to renegotiate if I was you remember for every pound that you borrow and some Mortgage you pay back £1.50 odd over the years
Well, worth saving a few pounds or at least trying

I feel that it’s quite common to feel,you overpaid when you bought and then when selling that you sold too cheaply. It’s very early days and your partner is away a lot so you are on your own with these thoughts! Be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s very hard to find everything out about a house when you usually only view once or twice before putting in your offer. I spend more time choosing clothes. Can you start to buy a few things (doesn't have to be expensive) to place around the house. I am currently in a rental whilst having renovations done and loving this house although if I had been looking to buy and viewed I would have said it’s not for me! You are most
likely going to love your house, it could take a while. If not then, it doesn’t have to be a forever house. Nobody can really know how they are going to feel in a new house. Take care and hoping you start to feel better very soon. Please, if you feel able, give us an update.

Yes I did think “what the fuck have I done”’when be brought our current house as it needed a lot to work. However the area was perfect and we have put our stamp on it now and it works.

Thank you all so much for your kind words and support - I really do appreciate it.
I’m doing my best to get my practical head on and focus on moving forward; the decision is made now, so it’s about making the most of it. Of course, my anxiety still spikes and still having (very) tearful moments, but I’m hoping the good periods in each day will keep getting longer as time goes on. I’ll definitely keep you updated. As you’ve said, even if we did slightly overpay, if we stay for years it will balance out in the end.
I’m also trying to reframe things: even if this isn’t our ultimate "forever" home, that’s okay too. We can enjoy it, improve it, and when the time is right, move on. No decision has to be forever.