Am I being unreasonable?

[Barnets5pSlots]

How unreasonable am I being here? We were due to exchange tomorrow and complete on Friday, although at the last minute completion has been moved to next week. I am nowhere near being finished packing. The home is a bomb site at the moment whilst I’m trying to sort out what I can. Earlier today I got a call from the estate agent asking if the buyers can view the home tomorrow as they now won’t agree to exchange without seeing it again. There is absolutely no way I can get the house into any reasonable state for viewing tomorrow. It honestly looks like every room has been ransacked. I also work from home 3 days a week and the office the other 2. When I’m at home, obviously there can’t be any viewings, as I’m talking private calls for an hour each time all day. When I’m in the office, my dog is at home and he will not tolerate someone letting themselves into my home to look around. I have no one to look after him either and last time he went in kennels, he was so upset he scratched his claws down until they bled - so that isn’t an option either.

I’ve suggested one day next week where I have a 2 hour gap, and everyone feels I am being awkward and unreasonable being so rigid. I am a single mum, I work 2 jobs totalling 50 hours a week and my children do sports activities that I have to take them to every night of the week. It’s beyond stressful at the moment trying to pack and make sure that will be done by the day of the move, I have no help from anyone, let alone now having the pressure of sorting it out so someone can view. I wondered with my estate agent why the buyer couldn’t have said this sooner and visited last week or the week before; before all the packing and reorganising started, rather than demanding it the day of exchange. Am I being unreasonable?

There has been an item on 'you and yours' on Mon (R4) about things left in the property when new owners moved in. The 'professional' interviewed about what to do (eg can I sell stuff left....he might gave been a solicitor in property law) said best thing was to arrange viewing very shortly before exchange so you can see if the vendors are actually packing up and moving their stuff. Perhaps you can blame R4 if there us a sudden interest in another viewing immediately before exchange.

They sound mental. Your estate agent needs to be managing them better. I would have done what you have done, don’t get sucked into their madness. They are being totally unreasonable

They’re probably panicking. Hopefully they will go ahead l. Fingers crossed. You’ve done everything you can to make this work.

I've only ever read about the pre exchange viewing on here but accept it must be a thing as everyone else seems to know about it - funnily enough it never seems to end well on these threads, usually they ask for a last minute price reduction!

Are you the thread police? Looks like you didn’t pick on anyone else who did this so maybe keep your opinion to yourself :-)

Urghh hopefully they’ve got more to lose than you have and they back down pretty quick

What happened OP? Did they back down?

Yes I am interested as to what happened. Sorry you are having to go through this.

FTB's can be nightmares! I hope they came to their senses and backed down, how ridiculous

Still haven’t exchanged or completed. I’m in an unusual position as I’m buying from a company rather than a person. To keep the chain moving the company have agreed to pay for some of the things that the FTB wanted doing. Hopefully we will exchange this week

I feel quite irritated at the way these people have treated you.

I'm a FTB but I wouldn't dream of making those pathetic, material demands.

I think a lot of FTBs are told they're the most important link in the chain and thus assume any demands they make have to be met by the buyer.

Personally, I prefer to take a more humane and pragmatic approach: if I saw it, and can afford, don't be a dick just because everyone tells you that you can be.

What comes around, goes around.

I hope this drama concludes very soon, and I definitely wouldn't recommend you sew prawns into any curtains linings that you're leaving, or any such mischief :)

Thank you. Yes, I think they may have had some poor advice that has given them the impression that they are the most valuable part of the chain and they should make sure they get what they want at all costs. I’ve got my fingers crossed that it will all just sail along smoothly now until exchange, but I’d by lying if I said I had any confidence in this. One of the things they raised is being looked at by a tradesman tomorrow, so I think that will be the deciding factor. However, it won’t change anything for me as I won’t be paying for the repair, regardless, even if the company I’m buying from don’t.

That seems sensible. If you give them anything else, I'd say it's quite possible you'll then get a last minute price drop the day before exchange.

Especially makes sense if you can afford to extend. Call their bluff.