Moved house and missing previous house :(

TheSilentSister · 17/06/2025 00:10

OP, I loved my first house I brought, all on my own. I treasure the memories of those feelings of 'this is all mine'. I did it up how I liked. I had a great few months being single and living the life.
I eventually met my DH and we both sold our houses to get one together. To this day, I will always think, why did I sell it.
Many years later, I've moved and found something like it but far better. I'm like the cat that got the cream. Life is good.

MH0084 · 17/06/2025 17:53

It takes time…
Make sure you make the new place your own.
Maybe some small scale decorating would help?

RandomMess · 17/06/2025 18:08

It sounds like you miss your neighbours, all those human connections etc.

purpleygrey · 17/06/2025 18:11

I miss my first house.
i was a single mum and bought it on my own. It was tiny but I loved raising my children there.

my current house is 3x the size, huge garden etc, but I still miss my little sanctuary.

Bobthepotplant · 17/06/2025 18:11

I think sometimes you feel sentimental towards a place where so many special memories took place. I have a special love of a house we had 2 houses back, we had grown out of it by the time we moved, but it’s where my little girl grew up and I had my two late dogs. I feel almost homesick sometimes when I think of that time and place, although I’m very happy where we are now, although I didn’t like the inbetween house very much. Looking back, I think certain places hold a very special place in our hearts due to the chapter of our lives spent there.

tsmainsqueeze · 17/06/2025 18:52

jentt · 16/06/2025 23:34

Moved to a new house in December last year and I can’t get over the feeling of wanting to go “home”. I feel like I’m on holiday and just desperate to go home now. I prefer this house in many aspects but it doesn’t feel like home yet and I miss our old house so much. I lived there for 12 years even before I met DP and had our DC, had both of my children there and we had lovely neighbours on our street that we would often chat with and our children would play with. We hardly see any of our neighbours here so maybe I’m feeling a bit isolated. We had outgrown the house so couldn’t have stayed anyway but if I could click my fingers and be back there I would :(

How can I get over this feeling? I know it sounds silly but I feel like I’m grieving.

I absolutely understand you.
I felt exactly the same after moving from a home i was very happy in but outgrew after having my 3rd baby , i was home sick for a couple of years despite my new home being bigger, nicer and perfect for our family's needs.
Weirdly i still dream about the old house and in my dreams the house is still mine but someone else lives in it and when they are not there i stay there , my dream is always the same and is always comforting.
I still think back fondly of that house but this one does feel like our home now as lots of time has passed and we are happy here.
I'm sure in time the same will happen for you and this house will finally become your 'home'.

Beethalia · 27/07/2025 13:27

jentt · 16/06/2025 23:34

Moved to a new house in December last year and I can’t get over the feeling of wanting to go “home”. I feel like I’m on holiday and just desperate to go home now. I prefer this house in many aspects but it doesn’t feel like home yet and I miss our old house so much. I lived there for 12 years even before I met DP and had our DC, had both of my children there and we had lovely neighbours on our street that we would often chat with and our children would play with. We hardly see any of our neighbours here so maybe I’m feeling a bit isolated. We had outgrown the house so couldn’t have stayed anyway but if I could click my fingers and be back there I would :(

How can I get over this feeling? I know it sounds silly but I feel like I’m grieving.

I'm in exactly the same situation. After 25 years in my house that I loved in London, I moved to the coast in Dorset as I'd dreamt of doing once my daughter was married. I miss my house so much still after 9 months, I still cry, my cat is sad as he misses all his cat friends, he had loads and here is more dog owners due to proximity to beach. I'm in a flat and feel so cooped up and getting used to having people upstairs and sharing area outside front door is taking time. Everyone's so nice and I'm so lucky to have found this property even has a fabulous garden but I'm struggling a lot. I hope this stops soon and it's helped to know I'm not alone.

Soonenough · 27/07/2025 14:47

I am staying in a house far too big for me for that reason . I just don't want to move unless I can get exactly what I want in a new house which of course is impossible. I am not even happy that my original family home which was sold and I still see has been completely renovated . It is a lovely job , the house was an old 70s bungalow which definitely needed upgrading. And there is a lovely family living in it enjoying the large garden, etc. But sometimes I wish I had moved there when I could have even though I hadn't lived there since I was in my 20s.

Totally irrational but not uncommon . I guess it is the reason why older people often won't move even when it is absolutely the best idea.

I hope time will make you feel more comfortable in your new house and your own DCs are now making their memories there.

lovemeblender · 27/07/2025 16:20

Realistically you might never get over it. I too lived in a house for 12 years, 2 DC were born there and despite moving on to better houses, they have never felt 'home'. Came back from holiday this year and momentarily forgot that I didn't live there, many a times I have an accidently driven to the house thinking I still lived there, and the DC still like to drive past it (and being horrified the new owners cut down 'our' tree) and we still talk about it being where our heart is. I feel the new houses have a familiar holiday home feeling, but never a real home if that makes sense.