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Bully neighbour taking the p***

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Readnotscroll · 30/05/2025 21:39

I live in a lovely part of NW London with green spaces all around and the tube down the road. We absolutely love our neighbourhood and as we are on a cul de sac, we are a tight knit group of neighbours. Lots of houses (including ours) have been renovated in the past 5 years. We recognise it’s a hassle and everyone has tried to be respectful and minimise impact.

6 months ago one of the houses, 4 doors down, was bought by the boss of a building company who started ripping it apart, and extending. All fine. Except we clocked a basement going in with no planning. When neighbours have enquired to the builders it’s been called a cellar or just for storage. Few discussions on what’s app about it but as it doesn’t affect us, we haven’t bothered to report it. This building company has a local reputation, we don’t want to get involved in an issue with new neighbours.

We are away on holiday and got a text from a neighbour asking what is happening behind our house. Turns out the builders had started to rip out trees that are beyond our boundary wall, in the park behind us. The trees had been important for keeping the area hidden as it can be subject to anti- social behaviour. Recently a neighbour was burgled from people entering from the back. We also have lots of wildlife around (muncjack, badgers, woodpeckers, kingfishers etc). When they were confronted the builders became quite abusive. Between us and the neighbours we:

  • logged a call with police
  • called council planning
  • called council green spaces
  • applied to see if any trees are subject to a TPO
  • spoke to a local councillor

i ended up on the phone to the homeowner and he was fairly nasty. We have no clue why he has done this.

Does anyone have any other ideas about what we should/can do? TIA

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ohfourfoxache · 31/05/2025 02:13

I don’t know about immediate action, but bats are key animals here. It would be such a shame if all the neighbours noticed a reduction in numbers……

Readnotscroll · 31/05/2025 07:04

ohfourfoxache · 31/05/2025 02:13

I don’t know about immediate action, but bats are key animals here. It would be such a shame if all the neighbours noticed a reduction in numbers……

Excuse my ignorance, would it be reasonable to suggest a pretty immediate reduction and what will be the result to him if I do report.

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Bluebellwood129 · 31/05/2025 07:34

Readnotscroll · 31/05/2025 07:04

Excuse my ignorance, would it be reasonable to suggest a pretty immediate reduction and what will be the result to him if I do report.

I wouldn't advise lying in case the property owner has already had ecological surveys done without your knowledge which show no bats. You've raised your concerns, let the council investigate, unless you want to pay for your own investigations - a PEA is usually around £500-700 and you'll be able to do a site walkover with the ecologist.

Papricat · 31/05/2025 08:10

Rich people tend to be nasty.

insomniaclife · 31/05/2025 08:14

Love the fact you did fuck all when it didn’t affect you.

MissMoneyFairy · 31/05/2025 08:17

Who owns the land where the trees are being removed, is it a park or the neighbour, is there any info on your local planning application portal

XVGN · 31/05/2025 08:40

You've done the right thing going through the council. Why the Police were involved is beyond me (unless a real crime has been committed). They really have more important business to attend to.

Beware that any of you selling will now have to declare the dispute in your Property Information pack.

Readnotscroll · 31/05/2025 11:49

insomniaclife · 31/05/2025 08:14

Love the fact you did fuck all when it didn’t affect you.

If it wasn’t affecting.us then it seemed to
be just being a busybody if we did report it

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50lbstolose · 31/05/2025 11:52

Who owns the land?

Readnotscroll · 31/05/2025 11:53

MissMoneyFairy · 31/05/2025 08:17

Who owns the land where the trees are being removed, is it a park or the neighbour, is there any info on your local planning application portal

Owned by the council, it’s a public park. We have reported to the council and will be putting in a complaint about the basement now. Local counsellors aware.

Turns outs he cleared all the way through to the park and is driving mounds of soil through it. He did it to get access. What a wanker!

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MissMoneyFairy · 31/05/2025 12:08

Let the council deal with the tree, did anyone from the parks department saw what happened

Readnotscroll · 31/05/2025 12:20

MissMoneyFairy · 31/05/2025 12:08

Let the council deal with the tree, did anyone from the parks department saw what happened

Council came down and took photos. We have lads on motorbikes coming down the park and now they can easily cut into the space behind our houses. Just affecting our security and peace. I am so cross and sad about it

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MissMoneyFairy · 31/05/2025 13:20

The motorbikes and security issue is for the council and recreation. If he's broken the law and maybe get charged with criminal damage it will get on sm and local news like the sycamore story. I'd sit back and let it unfold.

JaneAustensCat · 31/05/2025 15:35

Contact your local paper, nothing they like more than "rich boss of building company flouts planning laws, cuts down trees in public park".

Embarrass the shit out of him and it might well affect his business too. He won't know who contacted them. Send the paper a few photos to back it up. The good news these days is it also goes online so gets a wider audience than the local rag used to.

Readnotscroll · 02/06/2025 08:08

So yesterday we got a call from our next door neighbour. They had been walking down the back of the houses and have spotted that he has now built a pretty shoddy wall infront of the basement/cellar. Whilst they were looking, the owner spotted them and ran out calling them all sorts of names, swearing etc. When they called they sounded pretty shaken up. They are 70+ years old and quite respectable. Another neighbour has messaged to say the owner has agreed to meet with anyone who would like to talk to him. I personally have nothing to say to him, it sounds like the council are on the case. Thanks for advice, support! We are on our way back from holidays and honestly I don’t want to go out the back to see the damage. If anyone has any idea about how we go about rewinding on council land please share. The neighbourhood is pretty keen to put things right.

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MissMoneyFairy · 02/06/2025 08:25

What a tosser, I wouldn't bother meeting with him and would advise your other neighbours not to either, the council and the police can deal with him if he's caused criminal damage. Let the idiot stew. He'll want to portray himself as Mr nice guy the victim, don't fall for it.

MissMoneyFairy · 02/06/2025 08:27

What do you mean by rewinding on council land?

MissMoneyFairy · 02/06/2025 08:31

If you mean rewilding then wait to see what happens, if he's found guilty and fined. Trees are expensive but it would be a great coup for the local community if they got involved in replanting and it made the local news.

Readnotscroll · 02/06/2025 12:08

Yes! Rewilding! 😄

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Readnotscroll · 03/06/2025 17:19

We have got home and they have begun to really started to try to intimidate us. They were sprawled out on the green outside our house yesterday evening and 2 of them came up behind my husband today when he was getting our son in the car and shouted to scare him, saying ‘thought you were a big man’, laughing as they walked off. It’s really upsetting as this place is such a little sanctuary to come home to after a difficult day at work. Have increased my ring camera’s perimeters as a result

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Ketzele · 03/06/2025 18:00

Is 'they' the builders or the bike boys, OP?

Readnotscroll · 03/06/2025 18:19

The building company and house owner

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GintyM · 03/06/2025 18:27

You’ve already taken all the right steps – well done for acting quickly and collectively. At this stage, I’d suggest:

  • Follow up in writing with the council and your local councillor to create a clear paper trail (photos if you have them).
  • Contact the park’s landowner (if it’s not council-owned) – might be worth checking the Land Registry if unclear.
  • Escalate to your MP if the council drags its feet – especially if there’s wildlife or public safety concerns.
  • Keep documenting everything – dates, times, what’s said, by whom. Abusive behaviour should also be logged.

You’re not being petty – you’re protecting community safety and a shared green space. Keep going.

JohnofWessex · 03/06/2025 18:55

If they are intimidating dial 999

The Police dont usually take kindly to intimidation of witnesses

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