House move anxiety…

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Wasn’t sure whether to post this here or in health so apologies if it’s the wrong place!

We’re inching closer to getting a date for the exchange of contracts and my god, I’ve hit peak anxiety levels. I feel like an absolute moron as I’ve been the driver of this house move and now I’m starting to crumble. It’s affecting my sleep and subsequently, affecting my health. I’m constantly picking up infections at the moment!

I will make this laughable by adding that we are literally moving around the corner to a bigger house… 🙈

I am questioning myself constantly. Especially about how our children will adapt to the new place and whether the extra £400 a month mortgage payment will be justified. Also so anxious to leave the memories behind! Our current house was our first home. It’s where we’ve married and had our two girls. Argggh I can’t cope 😭

I guess I’m asking is this reasonable/normal? Is this something everyone feels or is this a sign we’re making a major mistake?

Wish me luck folks it’s moving day here , no going back now . I’ve never been so tired after having to 4 days to pack a house and working (mad rush at the end due to our buyers ) . Movers coming at 8 arrgh

Totally normal, it’s such a stressful time, we moved a few years ago, big downsize and relocation. Good luck with your moves to OP & all on the thread.

@cleo333 Oh my goodness! Wishing you the best of luck today. I hope it goes smoothly for you.

Absolutely relate to what you said. Wimby. We're about to exchange soon and I’ve been in bits over it. The stress really catches you off guard, especially with young kids and memories tied up in every corner of the house. Funny how something you've wanted for ages can still feel so overwhelming when it's actually happening. Thanks for sharing your experience. It’s reassuring to know others didn’t shed a tear either and settled in well. Fingers crossed we’ll feel the same way once we’re in and can finally breathe!

Well we moved yesterday . It actually went okay but took much longer than I thought . The removals came at 8 and didn’t leave until 4 . We are in a bit of a mess not knowing where anything is but will try to get order today . My cats stressed mostly and I think I may blub today as the reality of this muddle and not being able to go back wil kick in . Thanks for everyone’s support in here , it has been so helpful to know others have felt like me

Can so relate to what you all write.

We were forced out of our family home a few months ago. Massive upheaval for all of us also because DH was very sick at the time.

Did the move by myself, luckily we booked a removal team who packed everything up and moved it within a few hours. That made it easier.

We were heartbroken leaving our old place and all the memories behind tbh. I still feel a bit sad when I go to that part of town. But I try to think of the happy memories and be grateful for those

But all is good now and we have a much bigger home.

congrats on your move @cleo333 we also moved into a fixer upper. I enjoyed those first few cups of tea in the new home!

I think it is so natural this way and it’s good because it shows that you have loved living in your current home. I think it sounds win win though! You will not leave your memories behind, you will take them with you. I know it’s different to being in the same place but you will still have all your memories, but now you’ll also be moving on to make new ones. You will still have the same location so that’s not a concern, and you will have more space which has to be good.

I wouldn’t worry if the children initially say anything that seems less than enthusiastic. When my DB had an extension and redecorated his little ones were like ‘we liked the old house 🙁’ when they were literally in an improved version of the same house! Which they now really like and really use the extra space. Also if it doesn’t feel like home straight away that seems completely normal based on what everyone tells me!

Maybe you could take a video in your old place just walking round and remembering things or take some pictures and make a memory book with some text too, if that feels like something you’d like to do.

I don’t really take my own advice but then when we move we will probably be going to a completely different kind of home in a completely different and distant community. Help! 😂

We exchanged last week and will be moving in a couple of days and I’m having a massive wobble. We visited the new house to drop off some plants yesterday and it seems smaller and more run down than the three times we’d seen it previously. Then coming back to our current house which we’ve put so much work into and I adore made me think maybe we’re making a massive mistake….but the location and parking situation are just getting unbearable. DH is really excited and can’t wait but I feel like I’m going to be a emotional mess when we leave our house for the final time

Thinking off you. Try to remember the reasons for wanting this move if your sadness and anxiety become overwhelming. I have always found moving so very difficult so feel for you. It will be fine, maybe just take a little while for you to settle,

Selling and buying houses is a financial transaction, but with large amounts of money. The trouble is, that a house that you have made a home, has a huge emotional pull and memories and it can be difficult to put that aside and recognise the benefits of moving and why you wanted to do so in the first place.

We’ve moved on a boiling hot day, in spring, summer, autumn and winter. We’ve moved on my birthday, we’ve moved to short term let, we’ve had brilliant removal people and some not so much.

I’ve cried more than once at the number of boxes, not being able to find anything, the state of the house, being unwell, children underfoot.

In the end, things get sorted and it becomes home and if it doesn’t, you make the best of it, or do it again!

To give you hope , I moved 9 days ago to a renovation house which I was really worried about and I loved my last home . We were moving as no space and not so nice neighbours .
Since moving , I’m excited , motivated in fact . Love the peace and space and have not missed my house at all ( I’m amazed at that) The reasons for moving were right and not going away despite the love for my home , I I now think I will love this more

Well we’ve finally just exchanged with completion in two weeks!

I swear after I got off the phone, I had a flashback of all the events that have happened since we’ve lived here. My god, I’m a mess! I feel like an absolute nutter!

Pray we don’t have to do another move for many many many years to come…

We've moved twice in the past year. Initially we were living in a lovely ground floor flat in London. We'd been there nearly 30 years, cleared the mortgage before deciding to move to Somerset. When we moved we went into rented while we looked for a house to buy. We've since bought do moved again.

The first move, I was so, so anxious. Not only had we lived in that flat so long, I've always lived in London and was now moving to a market town miles from London. We always liked the flat and the area, and I was so, so worried whether were doing the right thing.

When we moved into the rented, while I loved the area the house while ok it was never a "forever " home, just a "for now" home. It was an early 1990s 'box' on a small estate of similar 'boxes'. However it was great as a base while we found our feet and looked for our forever home. About 3 weeks ago we moved into an old terraced house, stone walls, nicely refurbished by past owners and now I feel much happier I'm in my own house. I love the house and the town and while there are things I miss about London, I'm very happy to have moved out and started a new life.

You'll get there! Sometimes you need to get out of your comfort zone.

Oh i know how you feel, last August we moved from our first home where my babies came home to to a dream house is our perfect location and I sobbed as we left..

A week later had to go back to the old house and didn't feel a thing! Such a stressful time

It's so stressful, we did a similar move to you recently and I was a wreck. We ended up exchanging the day before moving which was so stressful. Anyway, it all worked out and I can report that we are very happy in our new house and the fact that we are still local means nothing else has changed which feels very reassuring. Fingers crossed your move is stress free from now on, enjoy your new home!

Hi all I hope to give those feeling wobbly reassurance . I moved may and was a wreck wobbling that I’d made a terrible mistake . The reality is I’ve not looked back once . I needed this adventure as life was boring and I needed change . It’s also made me and my partner stronger as we’ve bought together . Im
so glad I did it and hope you all feel the same . My only sadness is seeing my old home not really being looked at by the new owners but I guess it’s early days

We moved two weeks ago.

Had been in last house a long time, moved in as a newly married couple, left as a family having had our children there. It was all done and perfect. We had paid off the mortgage. I was throwing up with fear over the move. Massive mortgage, house falling apart, huge project, no funds to do what’s needed. I braced myself to hate it for months.

Everyday for the last two weeks I’ve woken up feeling I’ve won the lottery. I love every brick. I never dreamt I’d own a house like this, set in its own land. I’m sure I’ll have bad days but considering how I felt in the weeks leading up to it, I’m optimistic and happy to be here.

Moving is horrible. I hope it goes okay.