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What the heck is this guy doing next door?

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MissMarplesCat · 15/03/2025 19:25

We live in a very small village in a row a 4 cottages. The end terrace is joined to us, and had previously housed an old lady for many years, who then went into care. The house stood empty for a few years then put up for sale. It seems that it was in a bad state of repair (very dated), so went on to auction.
A man purchased it last January and when we got chatting he said he hadn't viewed it prior to bidding and was horrified at the amount of work he'd have to do.
We expected contract work to begin, but he only had one guy, this guy is not a professional in any sense of the word, and to date has damaged our roof (dealt with), fitted all of the windows incorrectly, badly plastered some walls, then hacked it all off and put boards up instead (!), and caused plaster work in our hallway to crumble.

We kept things as friendly as possible, but since last January he has been there most weekdays with his helper chap and they have not stopped smashing at the walls in all of that time. Around 5 skips of bricks have been completed so far, although no interior walls have been removed! Since we can hear a pin drop in there now, it seems like they have removed bricks from the party wall.

As of early Feb this year they are coming 7 days per week. I presume the helper is family or a friend and getting some cash for his trouble.

There's no getting your head around this. The man is very shy and non communicative and looks desperate to get it ready for his small family. What concerns us is that a gas boiler has been delivered from a car (not a plumber van) and left in there. DP overheard him discussing fitting it with an older man who warned hm he wanted nothing to do with it. Make of that what you will.

The guy seems to be struggling financially and very desperate, and whilst friendly, he has already told us a few lies.

Since a few weeks back they have been coming every day even sunday, horrific noise from early until after 5pm. Through last year they even did Easter sunday, and all of the bank holidays, which i thought was illegal for building/construction?
He tried to do Xmas even and Xmas day until DP told he would call the police.

Between October and January this guy was hammering at the front bedroom window frame daily to try to refit it, to no avail. DP works from home so it's sheer hell. It is taking him quadruple the time to do anything because he won't hire professionals. It looks like a bomb site.

Anything we can do here? We have been passed on to planning as council told us building regs no longer have a number. God knows what that means. We've been very tolerant since we knew he was struggling, but since he has already damaged our property and had to repair it, we are getting very concerned and fed up. We doubt anything in there is legit, and he told us when he first bought it that he hadn't had it surveyed, etc.
We think the helper is just a cash in hand guy, with little to no knowledge of what he is doing, and we are very tired of the 7 days a week noise at this point. We have tried to talk, and whilst he is polite, he just lies to us about reducing the days and carries on.

Sorry this is long! Any advice welcome.

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ChompandaGrazia · 18/03/2025 23:20

Oh my word, what a worry this all is. The gas boiler is a real worry as that is very dangerous. If this guy is new to the U.K. he might not be aware of the regulations. I know that Corgi isn’t a thing anymore and it’s now Gas Safe. I don’t know if they are a body you can contact to report stuff.

MissMarplesCat · 18/03/2025 23:59

I understand that no one needs emotional crap in the DIY section of MN.
But I now understand why, when reading about these issues in the past, how so many marriages broke up after a neighbour dispute.

I have been trying to galvanise DP, since March last year, and have been able to understand how each and every process next door has been a problem, yet DP insisted it was going to be OK. We are pretty much staunch defenders of the marginalised, and this overclouded so much, that we are now stranded in this situation.
It has created something of a gulf between us, as whilst our beliefs are in alignment, we both took a considerably altered timeframe in which to act.

It has highlighted cracks that were previously tolerated, and I am not sure how I feel now.

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Talltreesbythelake · 19/03/2025 07:01

It sounds like a stressful situation and you are both dealing with the unknown. Might be useful to make a new thread on the Relationships board for support.

6strings1song · 19/03/2025 08:27

That sounds really stressful OP and I am sure it is very much related to your current situation. Once you have had some feedback from the inspection/solicitor etc, I would be inclined to sit down together and decide an action plan for the possible scenarios. If x happens, we agree our next move will be x. This depends if your DH would be open to that approach. It also helps to have a plan for each scenario, and avoids procrastination and avoidance of action.

My DH sometimes suffers from head in sand syndrome, and having a clear plan of action can sometimes help.

You also have to try and separate your feelings regarding the neighbour's situation/background and what impact it is having on your life. You have given them ample time to sort the situation out and been extremely understanding, but ultimately it is negatively affecting your life (and home) and something has to be done.

JohnofWessex · 19/03/2025 08:34

The next door neighbour may well be the underdog BUT it doesnt stop them from being an idiot that has to be held to account or someone who could do considerable damage to you and others

AgathaX · 19/03/2025 09:10

This is horrifying. I'm glad you've finally reported the situation. Keep on at people too check this all out properly. What he's done sounds like it could be dangerous, and if he goes ahead and fits the boiler himself it'll be even more so.
You say that your vestibule has bowed and there are areas of collapse around your door? So actual damage has already occurred, plus the damage to your roof earlier. What has your insurance said about this?
It's no surprise that this has put a strain on your marriage, but this is a very unusual situation. Try to work together to get the works inspected and sorted. Hopefully once it's finished with your relationship will recover.

JohnofWessex · 19/03/2025 12:27

Many years ago my brother looked at an end terrace house on an embankment over the railway.

When he realised it was the first in the terrace but number 2 not 1 he was a bit worried.

Turned out that Number 1 had been basically destroyed by the last owners 'building works' so take heed!

Also have you talked to the people on the other side?

Melroses · 19/03/2025 12:58

It is kinder to report people who are not following building regs. The system here is designed to help rather than to punish, and the neighbour would have been encouraged along a path of compliance thus saving him time, money and the repercussions of damaging neighbouring properties.

Annascaul · 19/03/2025 13:01

JohnofWessex · 19/03/2025 12:27

Many years ago my brother looked at an end terrace house on an embankment over the railway.

When he realised it was the first in the terrace but number 2 not 1 he was a bit worried.

Turned out that Number 1 had been basically destroyed by the last owners 'building works' so take heed!

Also have you talked to the people on the other side?

The entire house had to be demolished? 😮

thislifer · 19/03/2025 14:47

Melroses · 19/03/2025 12:58

It is kinder to report people who are not following building regs. The system here is designed to help rather than to punish, and the neighbour would have been encouraged along a path of compliance thus saving him time, money and the repercussions of damaging neighbouring properties.

Sadly I agree with this. The poor man seems incredibly out of his depth and has seemly wasted all that time, effort & money destroying probably his only asset.

I think the op you have been killing him with your ‘kindness’ instead of whinging about the noise (although perfectly legitimate) if you had reporting the building safety concerns that will have saved you a lot of stress and distress, as well as your neighbours

JohnofWessex · 19/03/2025 15:27

Annascaul · 19/03/2025 13:01

The entire house had to be demolished? 😮

Its not uncommon

martinisforeveryone · 19/03/2025 17:10

@MissMarplesCat I hope now that you and your DP are on the same page you'll be able to stay that way. I know it's frustrating to be proved right and to wish you'd put some measures in place ages back, but sometimes things take a while to come together.

So often on AIBU here we see posts that we think, how can you not realise? of course you're not unreasonable, how on earth don't you see that? but it can take a series of pushes in the right direction and a stranger's confirmation, before we feel empowered to make the right moves.

I hope that's it and and that the stress it's been causing will ease. It's obviously been a lot of pressure for you both in your own ways.

GlomOfNit · 20/03/2025 10:38

OP, courage! You can get this stopped and that daft man can get some proper guidance. You're now doing all the right things. Continue to document everything, photograph things, diary, etc

I wondered if there's a cellar there? Trying to work out where all the bricks are coming from.

MadeForThis · 20/03/2025 13:29

You risk your house being damaged by his awful work. There could also be a fire risk.

Phoenix1Arisen · 20/03/2025 14:35

Has Mr Next Door had the wit to insure his property? Heaven forbid his antics cause a catastrophe to your own property and only then do you find out he is uninsured and you have no redress!

MissMarplesCat · 21/03/2025 00:18

As of this moment we have the folks from dangerous buildings in there, and we are discussing it with our solicitor, particularly the bowed in vestibule wall and other issues.
Agree that we left it too late, and no matter how troubled he may be, it will save him further repercussions than if it carries on..

Thank you everyone.

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GreyAreas · 21/03/2025 06:28

I hope it works out ok for you OP and sorry you have all this stress just because of someone moving in next door. All you have done is try to be reasonable and compassionate and supportive and you still are being by reporting this for safety. Take good care.

JohnofWessex · 21/03/2025 08:08

OP, please keep us updated. It will be interesting to hear what Dangerous Buildings have to say and what they propose to do.

MissMarplesCat · 21/03/2025 13:22

Thanks, will definitely update when I have more info!

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snotathing · 21/03/2025 13:45

I can understand how you and your partner wanted to be nice and give the neighbour the benefit of the doubt. Nobody wants to be seen as 'difficult' and it can take a while for the penny to drop that what's going on next door is actually madness.

You're on the right track now so hopefully you'll be able to work together to sort it out.

JohnofWessex · 24/03/2025 17:37

Hows it going OP, I hope you are OK

OldCottageGreenhouse · 24/03/2025 18:29

I hope everything is ok, OP. Please don’t let that bumbling buffoon come in between your marriage. This too, shall pass! Then life will hopefully go back to normal Gin

HeySnoodie · 24/03/2025 18:40

Just go through planning and explain that they have removed skip loads of bricks but you’re unsure if what they are doing will effect your house

MissMarplesCat · 25/03/2025 01:22

Thanks.
We are currently having our vestibule checked for damage, and have only had brief confirmation from Dangerous Buildings. Not heard anything more from them since Wednesday so almost a week.

Their email said they were contacting him regarding unauthorised work, and reminded us that any damages concerning the party wall agreement was not their dept.

Work was still going on in there today so we think they possibly haven't located him yet.

Don't think he would have it insured. It was all so sudden and rushed within a week of him purchasing it. The bricks were being hacked away at almost immediately so can't even see how they could have waited for planning permission. I recall we asked him had he employed a surveyor and he just shook his head, looked a bit lost tbh.

I doubt Dangerous Buildings will contact us again unless they have to so god knows what will happen there.

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