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Latest on 'do we move' dilemma - am I losing the plot ?

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BobLobla · 14/03/2025 13:29

Original thread here to give context to this one. https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/property/4987225-too-soon-to-downsize-if-its-the-right-house?page=3&reply=136794552

Update is that we put ours on the market but the bungalow sold before we could, so we took ours back off the market. DH wasn't heartbroken as he loves our current house and the area we're in. Houses/bungalows with the views I so loved are few and far between in our area so I threw myself back into loving our present house. Spent some more money on windows and the garden, did some decorating and spent the last year with a houseful: both dds and dd1's boyfriend; 3 cats and 2 dogs! We also paid the mortgage off - hurrah!

Long and short of it is that I've seen a house in a place very near to our current house. It's a rental for students right now and looks like it. Typical 1930s house, square rather than long like ours, rooms are a bit smaller BUT it has a huge terrace and looks out onto what is probably one of the best views in the city. Garden is a mess; lots of redecoration needed and tonnes of potential for extending. At the very least we'd need the kitchen-diner done and possibly a one-storey extension where the ramshackle old garage is now to the side of the house. It's about £100K cheaper than what we would be able to put ours on for, so we could afford to do the renovations we need to make it much nicer. There's actually potential to do LOADS including an attic conversion; 2 storey extension etc but I don't think we need that as we are essentially down-sizing. It has off-road parking galore, which we don't have now. It has neighbours only on one side; we're overlooked here, both sides and at the end of the garden. It's scratty and student-y now but it could be gorgeous and I'd love throwing myself into doing that.

I LOVE our current house. It's gorgeous and certainly livable in until we get carried out in boxes. BUT the wanker builder that lives at the end of the garden has gained planning permission to build another house on his property and it would be literally behind our fence. This is NOT filling me with joy. Our lovely neighbours are also selling up to downsize. This has got me twitchy too. DD2 is off to Uni in Sept and DD1 & bf will be looking to move out in a year or 2, maybe sooner.

Am I completely mad, just for the sake of a view? The estate agent even looked at our old listing from last year when we were speaking on the phone earlier and she said 'omg your house is lovely - why are you moving?!' LOL

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snotathing · 14/03/2025 13:46

You probably spend the £100k difference doing up the new house if it needs a single storey extension and kitchen. A lot of work but you'd have the view at the end.

snotathing · 14/03/2025 13:47

Plus you'd have off road parking. So handy.

HarryVanderspeigle · 14/03/2025 13:51

What is the point of moving if you don't actually downsize and have to do a lot of work? It won't free up any money and you don't need loft conversions etc for space.

My parents and plenty of their friends have looked at downsizing and mostly not done it as they don't really want to. They may well get to a point where they wish they had while they still could, but for now they are fit and well and enjoying living there.

DefyingGravidy · 14/03/2025 13:57

Will it still work for you in 10 years time?

I’m not sure if your ages, you could be 50 or 60+. Personally I’m 50/DH a bit older, and our next home will be chosen with consideration to the future. Eg at least one downstairs room that could be a bedroom if need be, downstairs loo, short walk to local shops.

BobLobla · 14/03/2025 14:19

We're 56 and 59. I took early retirement and now work freelance; DH is self-employed.

I don't know whether I need a slap or a high five 🙄

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Twiglets1 · 14/03/2025 14:23

BobLobla · 14/03/2025 14:19

We're 56 and 59. I took early retirement and now work freelance; DH is self-employed.

I don't know whether I need a slap or a high five 🙄

My husband and I are similar ages and next time we move it will be a case of downsizing to a property that will be suitable when we’re in our 70s & 80s and potentially not very mobile. So somewhere with a small garden and a bedroom & bathroom downstairs.

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