Offer on house - freaking out!!

[SilverDoublet]

Today I put an offer on a house. On paper it mostly makes sense and ticks a lot of the boxes of what we're looking for and we can afford it. We could also move straight in as its in pretty good condition. I thought my husband was on board with it as we viewed it twice together, I saw it 4 times, discussed it, and what offer we would put in and he told me to go ahead. There's no other bidders as it's off-market, so there's a good chance our offer could be accepted..
Now he's telling me he doesn't like the house, can't see himself living there, and wants to change all sorts of random things, like windows into patio doors and sticking bricks on the outside, none of which he even mentioned before I put the offer on, so it seems a bit crazy to me.

I'm freaking out now about what to do. Agent is due to call me on Monday. Do I just say we changed our minds and offer is off? Help!?!

Oh that is a bit unfair of him to suddenly announce that after he said yes to making an offer. I know though sometimes after viewing and offering, you do start doubting things and worrying you have made the wrong decision. I guess ultimately though, if he really does not think he would be happy there that is going to cause issues.

Are there any other properties around that you are able to view? Are you needing to move quickly, have you sold your property or is this a first purchase?

I would not worry though about withdrawing your offer if it comes to it, you must do what is right for yourself and your family. You have the weekend now to try and have discussions and come to a decision for Monday.

I hope whatever you decide it works out.

We have viewed another 2 in the area, both complete doer uppers, but slightly better locations, but will nearly cost the same to buy before any work is done. There are very few other houses that would meet our criteria in the area as we're trying to trade up. We have been looking around for years and are finally in a financial position to do it before kids start secondary school.

Ah that is tricky isn’t it. Makes sense going for the one that you can move straight into rather than the doer uppers but if your DH is talking about changing loads of things that you do not think need doing it is going to cause friction.

What did he think of the other 2 you viewed? Despite the work that needs doing, does he feel he would prefer living in one of those, prefer the location etc

It would be great if you could get moved and settled ready for the kids to start secondary school.

Strange. I think you need to get to the bottom of why he has changed his mind. Things like turning windows into patio doors can be done in time so shouldn’t be deal breakers. But maybe there is something more fundamental that is bothering him, like the location of the house. Or maybe he’s getting cold feet about buying a house at all.

Obviously you need to talk things through before Monday so you can give the EA an answer. Ultimately though, you both have to want to buy a particular house so if he doesn’t want to, I’m afraid you’ll have to accept his feelings and keep looking.

Sounds like he's got cold feet rather than the actual house being an issue, everything he's mentioned could easily be done, people often change a house once they've moved in tweaking it a bit to suit their lifestyles and taste.

So work out if he's got cold feet about the actual house or cold feet about the extra commitment money wise or whatever.

Because even if you choose not to go ahead on this house then you want to be sure he actually wants to move before wasting more of your time.