Nearing completion - feeling emotional

[Northernduck91]

I've just had an email asking what exchange/completion date I'd be happy with.

The chain has been complete since mid September. This obviously isn't a surprise...

But we're selling our first 'proper house', we started our family here and my DD2 was even born in the front room.

We've totally grown out of it now and we're moving to a bigger home in a better area. It's liveable but it has loads of work to do to bring it up to modern standards. It's going to be an ongoing two or three year slog I expect as we can't afford to do it all at once and then move in.

I just feel so upset at the reality of leaving our little family home, that's warm and comfortable, even though I know it's worth it in the long run!

Not sure the point of the post other than that really :(

I kinda feel the same, we're relocating nearly 3 hours away to live near the coast and be closer to my family. It's a move that's been planned for a couple of years, and I'm so excited..... but now we are really near exchange I don't want to sign the contracts ! It's anxiety for me, leaving everything im comfortable with for something new, what if I hate it 🤔

Very normal and healthy responses to a big change. Even though it's exciting it's also scary to move on. And by feeling the loss of the old, you're acknowledging that living in these houses was important. I always think it's best to just go with how you're feeling and eventually you realise that the feelings aren't as overwhelming.

And who knows, some years on, you'll be feeling the same way about your new houses.

I felt similarly when I sold my first house, to the point where I was nearly unable to handover the keys! Had a few tears on the way to my new home but once there was too busy and excited to think about it again. Memories are still there and always will be but you'll soon settle in and love your new home 🥰

I drove round the streets the night before I moved bawling my eyes out! Moved in to my new house the next day and didn't give the old place another thought, I was so excited. Mine was a do-er upper too

Ahhh I wish there was a 'heart' react on Mumsnet. I knew I wouldn't be the only one. It's going to be a tough day but at least I can keep myself busy in the lead up packing and organising!!

I felt like that. We had 3 small kids in a 2 bedroom and so needed the move but I loved loved loved our first home where all my kids were born and we had made it so nice. We also moved to a doer upper (livable but needing work) but 3 years on we are done, I have 4 bedrooms and we are so much better here. So let yourself feel it knowing you aren't actually going to stop the sale and then move on to your exciting new adventure.

I'm going against the grain here, when we moved from our first ever home where the children were so happy and settled, it was an awful wrench. Definitely was a mistake on our part, everything on paper looked like the right decision. We hated it but put up with it for a few years and moved again, back to the ssme area as our first house. We had zero negative feelings this time and were so excited when we exchanged contracts. Still here decades later and don't plan on ever moving.

I sat outside my new house and cried I was so sad leaving my old one, its a big change - I felt like a right wally, because lots of people can't buy a house at all, but it can be an emotional time. But I must say I think @thecatdidit also has a point, I didn't love the house and I think this made a difference to how I felt - I still feel a bit ambiguous about it now. Is it actually the right thing for you, or is it just moving on and making new memories?

Oh it's 100% the right thing

We're only moving a mile down the road so no upheaval lifestyle wise. Same nursery, same commute, same distance from family and friends.

But I'll be able to give the kids a garden big and safe enough to properly play in, somewhere to park the car instead of having to park 5 doors down and haul everything into the house in the rain, quieter safer road.....you get the picture!

@Northernduck91 I think this is perfectly normal - I shed a tear when we moved from the house DS was born in ( well brought home from hospital to ) & lived for first 5 years of his life.

It took me a while to settle into new house which similar to you needed work doing

But 14 years later I shed a tear at leaving that house.

Your feelings are completely normal & from my experience they will pass . Just accept it is not unusual - you are not the first to feel like this and you won't be the last 😊 Good luck in your new home

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I really struggle with moving house as I realise if it’s unfamiliar I find it scarey. Feel sure you will be fine. Just try and accept your emotions and don’t question your feelings too much, You obviously wanted/needed to move which is why you are selling it.