This board has become a forum for know-it-alls, and passive aggressive discussions

[KievLoverTwo]

I haven't been around long enough to see it in its hayday*, but 50% of the comments on this board make me cringe

Discuss?

(I am partially moving house this weekend - be back when I can)

*newb since March 23

‘Discuss’, twirls cartoon villain moustache, and then fucks off. Ok then OP.

Discuss it yourself mate

Op - I consider this area of MN - as the titles says- about property. You may not like the answers people get…but they continue to post and ASK for advice on many subjects.

Ive always thought that it was the more civilised end of MN.

Now you bowl up and start this thread with a view to turning this into an AIBU section.

Nah. Not going to bite.

@Imahosy 🤣 Yup. #oldhand…

I have to be honest, this board has been an absolute godsend to me over the last few years.

It’s not a bear-pit like AIBU and the vast majority of the posters here really do want to help (even if you don’t agree with their views).

The internet will always attract keyboard warriors or those who can’t be arsed to consider the feelings of others. But in my experience at least, posters in Property tend to be genuinely helpful with only a tiny minority of twats.

Also worth pointing out that the biggest pile-ons or causes of aggro tend to be when a Property post ends up in Trending and attracts a wider audience.

You might need to expand on what you mean by cringe? Because they’re wrong? Because they’re silly (in your opinion)? Because they’re bragging? Because they’re smug (guessing from your title of “know it all”)? Maybe some examples might help?

Lots of posts (not all) have subjective answers so maybe it’s just posters disagreeing with you that’s getting your back up? For clarity, I’m not being passive aggressive - it’s a genuine question. I steer clear of some chat forums as I don’t agree with widely posted views and I just ending up feeling annoyed 😂 could that be the case here?

Hope the house move goes well, I find it’s always a ballache but a relief when done!

It was much better before some posters descended on here from House Price Crash or whatever it’s called now to dispense their wisdom to use simple minded women. There’s a couple of bores who wang on about how everyone is going to have their house repossessed, all houses are over priced, and spam links to Moving House with Charlie, who is probably living in his mother’s spare room having failed to buy anything more than a games console since he left school.

Ooh I’ve not seen the one who types in a weird font for ages actually! Maybe they’ve moved on elsewhere 🤷‍♀️😂

I heard their mother disabled their internet access

😂😂😂😂

Exactly this!!

Or tell them to put some potted plants out the front 😂

I love this board though

Is this thread the equivalent of a 'drunk and dial' to an ex that you regret in the morning?

I think they mean that we have to discuss.
Not them.

I love that! My favourites are always about creased bedclothes. "That would put me right off!".
Yes, straighten your duvet and I'll give you another £10k.

A lot of the advise is going to be repetitive and may sound a bit mean. House too cluttered, house over priced, decoration too extreme, too lived in, not lived in enough, why didn't you move the bins, close the toilet seat, turn on the lights before they took the photos. To name a few recurring themes.

I think most people try to be helpful, but you have a huge range of opinions on here.

I would never have the balls to post a ‘Why haven’t I sold?’ thread.

Someone posts a link to their (usually very decent and unremarkable) property. The answers usually start quite mild and samey: “You’re very close to a main road”, “Have you considered moving the toy boxes out of the dining room?’ etc. Within ten posts it’s moved on to “Your house is a disgusting fetid soulless pigsty and I would never live there”.

The usual honest answer to their question is “It’s because the market is currently flat as a pancake and it looks a bit on the pricey side”.

There was one the other day where people were arguing that the OPs TV was too big and that was preventing sales apparently 😂

It's not the TV people!

These are countered by the ‘prices only go up’ brigade who champion not questioning the asking price and don’t dare to offer 10% below asking for fear of offending the vendor or getting alienated. The price is the price! And be bloody grateful about it!

😂
"There are visible toilet rolls"
"Hide the toothbrushes"
😂

😂😂😂

Is that how it works - the OP drops in at stupid o’clock with a random nonsensical post, says ‘discuss’, buggers off, and then people are just to post in their absence?!

Agree with this wholeheartedly. Very aggressive and off-putting.

@twomanyfrogsinabox

we should have a tick list, that would make it much simpler!

I like this board!

well, I did...

A midwife may not have had any children herself but still factually knows more about childbirth that someone whose had a child's limited experience taught them about childbirth.

I haven't bought a house, I have sold one and come from a background in building and construction in my family so grew up around it. I have had 2 house sales fall through due to the other party so unfortunately experience of the shit show of stuff that goes wrong.

I do not know much about mortgages and interest rates so avoid talking about it as I have no valuable input.

Someone who bought one a refurbished house smoothly with no issues doesn't automatically have more to add to a conversation than I do and honestly gatekeeping is often the problem when forums go downhill.

Exactly!

There is an utterly harmless woman I somehow ended up following on Instagram whose thing is video clips of ‘magic’ invisible mending in knitwear, and which are weirdly pleasant to watch (despite my total lack of interest in repairing jumpers) because skill is always nice to see. Yesterday, she posted a very nice, boundaried reply to an extremely aggressive, lengthy comment from a follower who basically sent her a tirade of foul-mouthed abuse because she posts her video clips speeded up (to fit the 90-second Instagram limit), which seems to have sent this person into a tailspin of fury at this blameless, virtually housebound stranger on the internet, whose only crime is posting videos of invisible mending.

It’s like kicking a kitten.