When does a new house feel like home?

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We moved in a month ago, much bigger, lots more room & much nicer & ticks lots, but not all the boxes we were looking for.

Have about 70% unpacked still plenty in storage. Feel so unattached to this house and get tearful every night wishing we had stayed at our much cheaper, much smaller, cramped old house that I loved. We could of paid the mortgage off and travellled....

I know hindsight is a wonderful thing but I can't help wondering why we've done this & thinking it's just not been worth the stress seeing as I don't love it.

When does a house start to feel like a home? When I think of home my mind still goes to our old house and not this one.... really hoping i get over it soon 😢

It can take time. We had a stressful move to our current house, we moved ourselves, big mistake as I hurt my back moving furniture. We actually moved from a bigger house to a smaller house (but in a better area) and we struggled with the lack of space. Ended up leaving loads of stuff in the garage where it got ruined by mice.

I knew it was the 'right' move for us but it didn't feel like 'home' and I struggled to settle. I kept finding fault in things (there was a lot of work to do).

I would say it took 2 years for me to feel at home. And even longer if I'm being honest to truly appreciate it, years later I love it.

Takes time! I remember my last two moves, I yearned for my old house and felt sad if I drove past it.

In my current place I had a bath the first night and felt empty and teary like I was in a strangers house!! which is bizarre as the new place was so much bigger and nicer.

Took a few months but started putting my stamp on it and getting it how I wanted, then I loved it. You’ll probably feel settled once you have done occasions in there so Christmas or a birthday etc.

Without meaning to sound OTT you share your memories and life with a house so if you’ve had good times, it’s natural to grieve for the old place.

PP shows it can take time so it might happen. Seems like it's not anything to do with the new house as such that is the issue but more of your attachment to the old one and because you gave up travel dreams could it be you associate the new house with feeling trapped? Like it has tied you down because you cannot travel as a result of being there? The last two places I moved into it took me only a few days and I loved both pretty much from the start so obviously I would have a different experience than maybe other responses. However I had outgrown both and was ready to move and both gave me a sense of freedom. First was moving out of parents home and second was moving out of an area I had grown up in. I was really ready for something new. A new home is rarely about the bricks and mortar but a lot to do with where you are emotionally.

My feelings exactly. We up sized, same area, but I loved our old house and had been there for 20 years. It’s taken a good couple of years to settle in, now 10 years on I love it, it’s evolved into our home.

I was in my previous house for nine years, and it took a good six months to feel at home after I’d moved.

I still sometimes reminisce, but having a drive/garage and more than one toilet is much better!

We're moving in less than 2 weeks and although our new house will be amazing eventually, we have so much to do to it!

I know I'm going to feel exactly the same way!

Moving from a much loved house isn't easy (I know as we both felt it on moving). The house was in our dream road, clean, tidy, good neighbours but we missed our old house. I think it helped when we started making plans to make it our own, ie decorating a room or two, buying new curtains and garden was literally just grass so we had the fun of planning a patio, shed and plants.

I've moved so often, I feel at home straight away. But if you think you've made a mistake I can imagine it will take longer. Finish the unpacking. A month is a long time to still not have it finished.