Neighbours, damage and fence

[Goatsandgardening]

We have lived in our house for 3 years. Bought it thinking it was our forever home. Our next door neighbours have caused 3k of damage to our property already and won't acknowledge this.

We've got back and they put up a fence against ours but they've dug around the base of our post and drilled into our concrete fence post. The post is now leaning quite a bit into our garden and it's cracked the fence panels on both sides. I've put some rebar in the ground to hold up the post so hopefully it won't topple

I'm getting really frustrated with them, the damage, parties almost everytime it's sunny til 1am sometimes, the kids friends throw things at our animals and stare out the windows at us. The parents have never acknowledged any of it.

I'm pregnant and admittedly very hormonal, my DH says we should replace the post and fences as we know they won't. We initially said if they kept being like this we'd think about moving, just for the peace and quiet but now he doesn't think he wants to

Sounds like a bit of a nightmare OP. It's such a shame when neighbours are disruptive instead.of helpful.

Unless the location is ideal in every way I'd think about moving. Making a fuss with people like that always seems to backfire so I would quietly just go elsewhere. Remember, if you bring up anything at all to with next door with the council etc you have to declare it as a dispute when you sell.

Alternatively, it is possible they didn't realise about your side of the fence; have you brought it up with them?

Are their children at an age where they'll be moving out soon or will you have to put up with them for a decade or more?

It's a big upheaval moving house, but then living next door to people who make your life a misery for whatever reason is also very stressful. You have to choose which stress you'd prefer!

We're pretty flexible about location as we both wfh mainly so that's really lucky. We gutted the house and spent a fortune on renovating so DH thinks it's pouring money away to sell. We'd likely need a mortgage if we moved too so I get his hesitation.

We replaced all the fence panels when we moved in so knew the condition was good. Our cameras saw them trying to pull the post back in place so they are aware it happened.

They've 4 kids, youngest is 8, oldest 17. The younger ones are the challenging ones, eldest lovely and polite.

Thanks for being so understanding, I think that's partly what I needed!