Do you neighbours irritate you?

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My neighbours are lovely people, we get on when we chat and we're on good terms, but they do my head in. I know it's me, I'm intolerant of noise and they're a bit louder than I'd like.
Do your neighbours annoy you even if they're not bad neighbours!?

We’re lucky to have the best neighbours on the planet, and on both sides, and have done for years. Reading some of the tales of woe on MN, I realise this is something to be very grateful for. We do all live in detached houses with a decent gap between all, so maybe this helps?

Exceptionally nosy and gossip hungry neighbours in general, however the one attached to my house tries to stay out of it, as do I.

Yes, neighbours on one side for myriad reasons.

Just recently they had yet more building work done that went on for weeks (they're constantly having things done). She sent a message "Omg neighbours, I'm so sorry our building works are going on longer than expected, we didn't think it would take this long. We'll arrange for all your windows to be cleaned as soon as it's finished, thank you for putting up with us."

Building works finished about a month ago. No window cleaners have appeared. Now they are going away for the rest of the summer. Why lie you absolute flake?

Also they have two boys who shout and scream and fight and cry the whole time they are in the garden.

No. Right now they’re all amazing, and for this I am incredibly grateful.

Not me, but my MIL lives in the adjacent flat to the gossipy, nosy, interfering neighbour from hell. She makes everyone else's business her business. We are careful never to tell her anything.

To make it worse, my DS lives in the flat above the said neighbour (which also belongs to MIL). The Neighbour goes into my DS's garden and cuts down the plants so she gets maximum light in her garden, and goes into my MIL's garden and rearranges things or peers through the French doors or kitchen window if MIL doesn't answer the loud knocking on the back door. I have now told her I will ensure the established but maintained bamboo in DS's garden is left to grow to 12 feet tall if she steps foot in either garden again. only told her this 10 days ago...

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Yes, absolutely. Both are nice enough people.... one side are retired and have way too much time on their hands. They will always put my bin out without asking, keep an eye on people who knock on my door, know all our comings and goings without me telling them anything. They are perfectly nice people, but fuck me, telling them to stop intruding seems like kicking Bambi because they genuinely mean no harm, so I tolerate it.
The other side are equally nice on a certain level, but they are bloody noisy. I take solace in the fact that things could be much worse.

We've got the shout family behind us. The woman whinges at DH about leaves from our trees falling on her patio. DH then rushes to cut branches off trees to placate her. Anything I ask to have him sort out can wait months, but Mrs Shouty asks and he's there doing her bidding instantly.

Out other neighbours are fine.

At times they do, one has the noisiest dog ever, it barks constantly when we are in the garden. It barks when we walk up our path, it just barks constantly.

the other neighbour joined onto us parks his work van on the road, but so close to our boundary that I have to manoeuvre my car at an angle to get off the drive, I speak to him at times about it, it changes for a few weeks then he resorts back to abandoning it. It’s just lack of respect.

Yes, lovely neighbours on one side. We're on pleasant terms with the other neighbours but they're so absent minded/inconsidered. They frequently blast music from a device in their garden (so it's not even like the sound is muffled a little from being inside their house), they often burn things in their garden, with the large can of fire being right up against our fence and smoke bellowing into DS' window, the adult child is often out in the front street playing with his ball by several cars.

If we speak to them about issues (e.g. loud noise) they'll be courteous, but it only takes a few days before noise levels creep back up.

I wish they'd move sometimes but better the devil you know!

Our one neighbour is lovely and not annoying at all.

The other side is absolutely fine on paper but I hate the fact he parks on the opposite side of the road taking up space when he could put in a drop kerb and have a massive driveway but he fucking doesn't.

In fact when we bought the house it's one of the first things he said, that he doesn't have a driveway.

He just has paved area that he never cleans or uses and is wasted space.

Sorry, not responding to your reply I just wanted to say I love your username!! 😂😂

What do you think about neighbours taking their small children out into the garden at 8am in the weekend where the children scream, cry loudly and sometimes fight? Several neighbours are very close by and can hear every sound they make as they are fairly narrow terraced houses. I understand that children need to go outside and play but wow 8am feels early for the screeching to begin.

Nope. Love them.

How? I have a young family one side and on weekends the kids can get a bit noisy and if they have company quite a bit of screaming (young girls). But that's only irritating in the moment.
I did have one neighbour who had a terrible cough. She'd sit in the garden and cough constantly. She's passed away now though.
My neighbours are pretty good. No one is mowing the lawn at 6am on a Sunday, or having loud parties til 3am or anything, and soundproofing is pretty good. We look out for each other (street WhatsApp group).

We moved into a newish build in July and can see why the previous tenant wanted to move . The sound proofing is awful to non existent and the noise from next door is bad . I can’t go through moving again currently but may have to think about it .

Nope. Live in a detached in a largely bungalow road. Lots of us are old and some very old. Noise is minimal, usually from a hedge cutter or strimmer. It's great, long may it continue.

To an extent, when they trample on my plants or throw fag butts on my garden. However, they're nice enough people and I'd prefer a good relationship with them than not.

They're apparently quite loud day to day, but we're in well insulated new builds, so can barely hear a thing. I imagine they'd be more irritating if we could hear them (and vice versa!).

Love the kicking bambi comment lol

It is totally like kicking Bambi, great analogy from a PP: Because they're soo nice and friendly and they genuinely care for us and our children; BUT they feel too interested in us. They are on us whenever they hear us. They seem to have this deep need where they feel we should be very close to them.

As for the noise, they would be absolutely fine if we were really loud and the kids were loud; they wouldn't care. They go on holiday where they know children will be because they love kids so much, none of this adult only stuff the man said to us once. But we are much more considerate than they are, we try to keep the noise down. So basically we are totally incompatible as neighbours go!

We have one lovely neighbour and one neighbour who’s just a bit of a nightmare. They are disablist, sexiest, racist and seem to be completely unable to see it. The father is a total fake, copies my husband all the time and teases his children constantly. If we put in a pond, they’ll then put in a pond, if I colour my hair she’ll colour her hair, omg the list is endless. They let their kids - 5 & 3 play in the front driveway on a main road unsupervised (no fence) one even wandered off with a stranger! They’ve never liked us since we’ve moved in purely because we are not the quiet old lady that lived here before and we won’t be pushed around. They'll need excess to our garden soon, our answer will be a shock to them.Their behaviour does give us a good laugh though.

Neighbours on one side of me are great. We help each other out with dog sitting etc The man does our gardening because we hate it and he loves it. the woman is my mums best friend who I’m actually named after tho so that probably has an impact on this

neighbours on the other side are nice enough but extremely irritating. They are perfectionists about absolutely everything. The most ridiculous thing was the time a plastic packet from some ham had obviously fallen out of the bin when I was putting the bag in (we share a driveway) and he actually picked the packet up and brought it to my door to tell me it had fallen out of the bin. If that was me I’d just have picked it up and chucked it back in the bin. They also have an annoying habit of telling me exactly how much every perfect item they have bought cost

Got new neighbors next to mine (house is a rental so changes every few years) and they seem pretty decent, young couple and said a nice hello a few weeks back. They have a lovely little cat (I’m a cat person) which is nice too.

However I also have a load of small birds that like my garden, I leave water out regularly. Cat has now decided this is his own personal little murdering zone, and although I’m not going to do anything about it (what can anyone do?) it guts me a little bit. The birds are already keeping away.
Hey ho, first world problems, could be lots worse.

The new NDNs on one side and everyone across the street are great.

We got along fine with the NDNs on the other side for the first couple of years after they moved in. We don’t mind returning stray balls and we could usually live with the very penetrating dog barks, excessive in my exper Once after a period of night time awakenings DH asked very nicely if they could do anything about the barking in the night and they were extremely nice about it. After that the barking was much better controlled and we thought everything was fine.

For a little while. Then the barking ceased and it became clear the dogs were gone. The NDNs also turned chilly. It seems likely that someone complained, but it wasn’t us. It’s really too bad but I have no idea what to do