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what to do if parter refuses/is unable to buy your shares.

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grcxo · 30/05/2024 22:25

i’m looking to break from my current relationship, i’m heavily reliant on other people’s advice, the haven of google and assistance through women’s aid.
any little advice i can get on my situation helps tremendously. i need to cover as many bases as i can.

long story short im in a relationship where im no longer happy, but ive been too scared to walk away because i know ill be left with nothing. he’s made that clear.
we are not married, but do have a mortgage together.
my first step to this all after i have the dreaded discussion with him, will be to begin procedures on removing me off the mortgage. there is a high chance he will delay the process as much as he can by not buying me out(regardless on whether he could afford it or not). and he will refuse to sell. i unfortunately have no money, and i know he will tighten up on what i owe him financially putting me in a further awkward position. i’ll be heavily reliant on my equity and will not be able to move out until i have that.
i will not be able to afford a solicitor for legal advice, though i do believe after my discussion with my case worker women’s aid may be able to help me to an extent.
is there anything i can do or look into to possibly help me out in this situation?

aside from this, although we are both in the mortgage but separated, say if i were to go to a refuge. will i still be entitled to benefits? or will my income still be based off a household income?

there’s so much confusion, stress and information. any help is greatly appreciated. x

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Sunshineclouds11 · 31/05/2024 03:38

We're separated, not married and have a mortgage.
I claim benefits, it goes off your wage only when a single claim.

Not much advise on mortgage as I'm the one who is wanting to buy out, waiting to hear from mortgage broker my affordability which tbh I know I won't be enough.

Solicitors offer 30 mins free so find ones in your area.

Good luck.

LiterallyOnFire · 31/05/2024 05:16

I will not be able to afford a solicitor for legal advice, though i do believe after my discussion with my case worker women’s aid may be able to help me to an extent.
is there anything i can do or look into to possibly help me out in this situation?

You will be able to get Legal Aid for family law proceedings because you're experienced DV.

aside from this, although we are both in the mortgage but separated, say if i were to go to a refuge. will i still be entitled to benefits? or will my income still be based off a household income?

The second you separate, you and your DC become a new household, independent of him. You'll qualify for benefits.

FinallyHere · 31/05/2024 07:38

I'm so sorry you are facing this.

One thing to hold on to, is to just not believe anything he had told you. Part of their abuse will have been to try and keep you 'in line' and available to them.

Write down everything you believe and get it out of your head. Then work though to get independent verification of everything.

You will get there. All the best.

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