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How to stop myself getting too far ahead of myself??

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OneDayIWillLearn · 16/04/2024 09:46

So we have now had an offer verbally accepted on a place we love (as of last night) and I’m so excited but also know I have to keep it all under control as so much could still go wrong!! I feel a bit like that but in early pregnancy when you’re not meant to tell anyone but it’s all you can think about.

I’m trying to restrain myself from starting to call around schools, joining the local Facebook groups etc.

It’s been a long search with a good few houses we have been pretty serious about (and two we offered on before) and now I’m also feeling a bit like a the woman who cried wolf as everytime I see friends to catch up I’ve been talking (keenly!!) about a different house….which didnt work out.

I feel I don’t want to ‘jinx’ this one by starting to tell people or doing too much groundwork but equally hard not to feel excited and to want to start preparing for a potential move that will be really quite big for us.

anyone else feel like this?? And any tips for how to keep yourself sane and/ or when you ‘allow’ yourself to start telling people/ looking at schools/ believing it might actually happen?

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blackcatcoven · 16/04/2024 13:53

Congrats on finding somewhere!

I made two Trello boards - one for everything we need to do before moving, and one for after the move. I’ve included things like joining local Facebook groups. This has helped keep me sane while waiting in a chain as I have somewhere to put all those ideas and things I wish I could do right now.

I also made lists of people to tell at different points, which helped me hold my horses and not tell everyone immediately although I did tell a lot of people

HappyGG · 16/04/2024 15:44

I feel your pain! I've re-designed so many kitchens and bathrooms that I've become an expert and that knot in your stomach is tough when things don't go to plan. I had an offer accepted last week and the memo of sale came through yesterday. I honestly can't contain myself 😅

The house I'm buying doesn't need a new kitchen or bathroom but I'm now looking at doors, carpets and tiles. Its the 'nesting' element that peaks me.

I'll only tell people now if they ask me directly and its only the really good friends I share the "excitement" with because I know they're rooting for me and will support me through the pitfalls as I would for them. Too soon for schools though haha!

Best of luck!

OneDayIWillLearn · 17/04/2024 09:51

blackcatcoven · 16/04/2024 13:53

Congrats on finding somewhere!

I made two Trello boards - one for everything we need to do before moving, and one for after the move. I’ve included things like joining local Facebook groups. This has helped keep me sane while waiting in a chain as I have somewhere to put all those ideas and things I wish I could do right now.

I also made lists of people to tell at different points, which helped me hold my horses and not tell everyone immediately although I did tell a lot of people

Thanks! Our offer was formally accepted this morning so we are one tiny step closer….

sorry to sound ignorant but what is trello?! Sounds like a good approach. And yes I think I need to write things down - and put them in some order, good advice thank you!

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OneDayIWillLearn · 17/04/2024 09:54

HappyGG · 16/04/2024 15:44

I feel your pain! I've re-designed so many kitchens and bathrooms that I've become an expert and that knot in your stomach is tough when things don't go to plan. I had an offer accepted last week and the memo of sale came through yesterday. I honestly can't contain myself 😅

The house I'm buying doesn't need a new kitchen or bathroom but I'm now looking at doors, carpets and tiles. Its the 'nesting' element that peaks me.

I'll only tell people now if they ask me directly and its only the really good friends I share the "excitement" with because I know they're rooting for me and will support me through the pitfalls as I would for them. Too soon for schools though haha!

Best of luck!

ah man, yes the same!! I’ve reconfigured about a dozen houses mentally/ redone the garden/ kitchen etc etc - I feel like I have to have really imagined myself there in order to know whether I like it….but it becomes quite emotionally draining!

and yes I think your policy of ‘only tell if they ask’ sounds really good, I’m going to adopt that one 👍👍👍

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Papricat · 17/04/2024 12:44

Better not to get emotionally involved until contract exchange.

OneDayIWillLearn · 18/04/2024 07:34

Papricat · 17/04/2024 12:44

Better not to get emotionally involved until contract exchange.

@Papricat easier said than done though!!!

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blackcatcoven · 18/04/2024 07:39

OneDayIWillLearn · 17/04/2024 09:51

Thanks! Our offer was formally accepted this morning so we are one tiny step closer….

sorry to sound ignorant but what is trello?! Sounds like a good approach. And yes I think I need to write things down - and put them in some order, good advice thank you!

It’s a website you can use to make to-do boards with different tasks and ideas.

OneDayIWillLearn · 18/04/2024 08:51

blackcatcoven · 18/04/2024 07:39

It’s a website you can use to make to-do boards with different tasks and ideas.

Thanks, will check it out 👍

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