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Housing association question

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Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 13:59

Hi everyone,

I wonder if anyone could help me with this. I’ve been on the list for housing association for a while bidding, however today I’ve been called to say I’ve won a bid on a 2 bed property

they are doing all my checks and hopefully I should pass that!

my question is I’ve applied way over a year ago for this as a single parent of one child.
since that time I’ve met a lovely man and I’m hoping in about a few months I can move him in too?

obviously I’d not be claiming single person benefits , I’d do it all legit and be honest with the housing people by letting him know he lives there.

is this something I can do? I don’t know how it all works. I really hope it is , surely it would benefit them as two incomes for the rent? Would it be something they could reject? As I don’t want to give this house up , I’ve waited so long for this and it looks so lovely!

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Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:02

And I don’t want to give it up incase we didn’t work out long term. I’d be back to square one again trying to find somewhere, at least this house will be mine regardless .

however being in a relationship and living apart is not ideal either . Just hope housing association wouldn’t reject

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K0OLA1D · 15/03/2024 14:03

My partner moved into my HA flat and he got added onto the tenancy. We then moved together into a house a few years later. There was no issues. Don't give up your house.

Dwrcegin · 15/03/2024 14:04

I'd take the house for yourself and child. Do not jeopardise the housing offer.

Let him live in his own house.

Garlicking · 15/03/2024 14:08

Congratulations! I'd accept the house for yourself and DC. Discuss his moving in at a leisurely pace. If you go ahead in due course, inform the HA and council. Don't add him to your tenancy.

shellyleppard · 15/03/2024 14:10

Agree with the above posters..... however my housing provider will not let you add anyone else to the tenancy. Just in case anything goes wrong. Good luck with your new home 🏡😁

piglet81 · 15/03/2024 14:12

You have a child so please don’t rush to move a man in.

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Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:16

Thanks everyone for your replies! No im not giving up the house by any means!! Sorry I think I worded it wrong. That’s not even on the agenda .

im just worried we will never be able to progress to living together if I move in ( which is fine) but not fine as i obviously that’s what people do eventually!

I just don’t know if because its housing association I’ll never be able to do that, I don’t know if it’s something they even allow or if it’s only my son and I allowed to live there for the rest of my life

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Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:18

shellyleppard · 15/03/2024 14:10

Agree with the above posters..... however my housing provider will not let you add anyone else to the tenancy. Just in case anything goes wrong. Good luck with your new home 🏡😁

Hi is adding someone to the tenancy different to moving someone in? Can you move someone in and not add them to the tenancy?

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Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:19

K0OLA1D · 15/03/2024 14:03

My partner moved into my HA flat and he got added onto the tenancy. We then moved together into a house a few years later. There was no issues. Don't give up your house.

Thank you, how long did you live there before you were able to move him in?

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Dwrcegin · 15/03/2024 14:19

I think you can let someone move in but add them to the tenancy, probably not.

TuliLily · 15/03/2024 14:21

Of course people that live in HA are allowed to move a partner in. You can’t really think they expect you to live alone forever? You just need to let them know and it will be fine however I’m surprised you are planning to move a man in so soon 🤐

BarbieDangerous · 15/03/2024 14:21

Take your house and move in with your child. If he wants to move in then fine, but why add him to your tenancy? I personally wouldn’t do that

TuliLily · 15/03/2024 14:22

You don’t add him to your tenancy that would be very silly if you break up he will have as much rights as you

shellyleppard · 15/03/2024 14:22

Op yes you can. Just let them know your fella is there but i don't know if he can be added to the tenancy. My housing provider doesn't but yours might be different x

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Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:22

Guys I’ve been with this man over a year. Spent every single day with him and my son! I don’t think that’s too soon! I haven’t been with him 5 mins

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K0OLA1D · 15/03/2024 14:23

Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:19

Thank you, how long did you live there before you were able to move him in?

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It was over 14 years ago now. But I'd been in my flat about 12 months. In fact, looking back, I think he moved in, added him to the council tax and he was added onto my tenancy when we moved into the house. That was a joint tenancy then. As long as you're not subletting, they can't stop someone living with you. Unless they are a menace.

SauronsArsehole · 15/03/2024 14:26

Don’t add him to your tenancy. Keep him off it at least until you’re married. Protect your child first by getting a secure home.

if the relationship goes south the house is then still yours and you won’t have any issues forcing him out.

remember you’re likely still in honeymoon phase and haven’t really lived together yet. Many women here can vouch for how a great relationship can change so protect your secure home and child first.

there shouldn’t be an issue moving him in later however I personally would settle in alone first then decide once you’re settled.

his response to not being added to the tenancy will also tell you if he is really wonderful or not.

sorry to be pessimistic but I’ve seen it go both ways and want women with children to have as much security as possible esp as he isn’t your DCs father.

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Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:27

Can I add I’m not putting him on the tenancy, I simply just want to know if he can move in. He’s happy to split the bills without being on any paperwork. Obviously people do it all the time, but claim benefits and never let the housing people know they live there .

however I want to do it the right way because I’m a honest person and don’t want to risk anything to jeopardise my sons new home and settled place

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SauronsArsehole · 15/03/2024 14:28

Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:22

Guys I’ve been with this man over a year. Spent every single day with him and my son! I don’t think that’s too soon! I haven’t been with him 5 mins

I was with my DCs father 4 years but he still cheated and became abusive when I was pregnant.

and yes a year is too soon for many of us.

I dated one man for 2.5yrs and didn’t know he was married.

we’re just telling you to protect yourself as much as you can if it goes wrong and we keep our fingers crossed it works out fab.

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Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:29

SauronsArsehole · 15/03/2024 14:26

Don’t add him to your tenancy. Keep him off it at least until you’re married. Protect your child first by getting a secure home.

if the relationship goes south the house is then still yours and you won’t have any issues forcing him out.

remember you’re likely still in honeymoon phase and haven’t really lived together yet. Many women here can vouch for how a great relationship can change so protect your secure home and child first.

there shouldn’t be an issue moving him in later however I personally would settle in alone first then decide once you’re settled.

his response to not being added to the tenancy will also tell you if he is really wonderful or not.

sorry to be pessimistic but I’ve seen it go both ways and want women with children to have as much security as possible esp as he isn’t your DCs father.

Can I add I’m not putting him on the tenancy, I simply just want to know if he can move in. He’s happy to split the bills without being on any paperwork. Obviously people do it all the time, but claim benefits and never let the housing people know they live there .

however I want to do it the right way because I’m a honest person and don’t want to risk anything to jeopardise my sons new home and settled place

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Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:30

SauronsArsehole · 15/03/2024 14:28

I was with my DCs father 4 years but he still cheated and became abusive when I was pregnant.

and yes a year is too soon for many of us.

I dated one man for 2.5yrs and didn’t know he was married.

we’re just telling you to protect yourself as much as you can if it goes wrong and we keep our fingers crossed it works out fab.

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Sorry to hear you been thru rough times! Sending hugs and thank you for your advice x

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BarbieDangerous · 15/03/2024 14:32

Mumofone154 · 15/03/2024 14:29

Can I add I’m not putting him on the tenancy, I simply just want to know if he can move in. He’s happy to split the bills without being on any paperwork. Obviously people do it all the time, but claim benefits and never let the housing people know they live there .

however I want to do it the right way because I’m a honest person and don’t want to risk anything to jeopardise my sons new home and settled place

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Of course he can move in. Some HA’s won’t allow a certain amount of people in the property if you were to be overcrowded. Say you wanted to move two people in then the HA probably wouldn’t allow 4 people in a 2 bedroom property. 3 people in a 2 bedroom property is fine.

If you’re claiming UC/HB then you’ll have to let them know that your claim is no longer a single claim. It’ll be a joint claim despite him not being on the tenancy

Fizzle29 · 15/03/2024 14:49

Housing association - financial check 😭

I’m a single mum of 3, been given a section 21 bidder on a new build housing association house and was successful, I was nominated by the council they took a landlord reference and landlord confirmed no rent arrears whatsoever paid on time for 6 years..

However 😭 I have lots of debts stemming back from a relationship breakdown and marriage ending, pay day loans that sort of thing and defaults. My landlord gave an amazing reference and we only have 3 weeks to find a house. I’ve passed every stage however this financial check I’m petrified about.

I have recently signed into a debt management plan for one single payment of £90 per month for my debts, I’m petrified it’s going to be intrusive and they’ll refuse based on things from my past. My rent has never ever not been paid and no complaints against me as a tenant.

BarbieDangerous · 15/03/2024 14:53

@Fizzle29 it’s best to start your own thread if you’re looking for support/advice as your post will be available to more people

creeashun · 15/03/2024 14:58

Of course he can move in.

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